Breaking up with a co-worker requires a little more emotional injury control than splitting with a regular ex.
Blocking them on social media and deleting their number wont stop awkward run-ins bound to happen in the break room, in the parking lot, or at company meetings.
You have to manage your feelings about the relationship hold it together at workas you watch them move on even when they do it with the next chick or dude in the office.
But, you knew all this when you got into this little sitch, right?
Heres how to deal now that yesterdays potential is todays vexing little suffering 😛 TAGEND
1. If you can move your work station, then move it.
You dont get over an ex at work or otherwise by sitting up in their face every day.
Sure, you want to avoid feeling like a punk on the job, but if sitting at a different spot is possible( without having to givea drawn out explanation to your boss or HR ), then move.
It does not have to be was transformed into a big present, especially if your job has a huge various forms of seat options. Just pick a different place to carry on with your work and move along. Easy peasy.
2. Go ahead and draft an email to HR in case things start to get messy.
This is especially relevant if your fresh ex holds a higher position in the company than you.
If you start to notification any slut-shaming, projects taken from you, or any other funny business, then keep a tab of the shady changes and then pull up on HR with all your ducks in a row.
mess with the coin.
3. Dont announce the breakup to co-workers.
It doesnt matter if your relationship was super low-key or the talk of the office before do NOT make an announcement about “whats happened to” make it all fizzle out. Thatsdramatic, and also nobodys business.
4. Shut down all questions from co-workers about what went down.
If co-workers notice the change themselves and ask questions, hit them with the, Im simply interested in discussing work , not my own personal life at this time. Then, smile and change the subject.
Dont allow yourself to be the amusement at the job unless theyre marveling at your work ethic.
5. Deny your ex any requests to talk on the job about anything that isnt work-related.
You should really be doing a clean transgres, which means zero to minimal communication on and off of the job, for at least a short time period while you mend. But if you hear your ex out, then let them know its only going to take place outside of work.
They have your number and sure knew how to use it after hours before the breakup. Whats so hard about it now?
6. Ask a bestie to meet up with you for lunch on your break.
If you work a full-time chore and have an hour-long lunch violate, then use it one day for an afternoon sister-girl chat.
If you and the bestie cant actually meet up, then scheme a lunchtime call only to gossip and catch up. The hour with a great friendis sure to put you in a better mood.
It is especially clutch for the toughest days right after the relationship ended.
7. Prep the Im Awesome, Duhplaylist.
heartbreak songs. I recur, heartbreak songs.
Create a playlist of your upbeat, empowering faves that induce “youre feeling” bomb AF to get ready to in the morning. Play them in your vehicle or on your phone all the way to work so you can pump yourself up. If you have your own desk, listen to itthroughout the day as well.
Another hack is listening to tunesat a medium noise level. High volumes are great for jamming out in your automobile, but medium sounds are better for productivity.
Youll get over your old co-worker bae kick more ass on the job. Win-win.
8. Dress bomb AF.
You may not have ricochetted all the way back from your aiming your office love, but you can sure as hell look like a professional fox while youre at it.
This is empowering , not shallow because its all about doing what attains you feel great.
Psychologist and author of Mind What You Wear, Karen J. Pine, researches and writes frequently about how clothes affect the mind and mood.
She wrote in her book,
When we put on a piece of clothing we cannot assist but adopt some of the characteristics associated with it, even if we are unaware of it.
If Im in casual clothes I relax and am tomboyish, but if I dress up for a meeting or a special occasion, it can alter the way I stroll and hold myself.
So, put on what stimulates “youre feeling” powerful, even when you dont feeling the best yet about your breakup.
9. Seriously rethink office romances in the future.
Dontshit where you eat.
The odds of a fairytale romance coming out of a undertaking fling just seem too low tokeep taking the risk.