Why Everyone Should Run To Therapy

I don’t know you. I don’t know your narrative or your past.I don’t know the heart breaking or confusion or conflict in your life. I don’t know if you’re having relationships a matter that hurt and confuse and steal your elation. I don’t know if you’re struggling with your child and the role of parenthood has beaten you down. I don’t know the trauma or abuse or intestine wrenching rawness you’re going through.

I don’t know you. But I do know something about you.

I know your tale is worthy. I know you’re able to heal, to rise from the ashes and become the person or persons you were created to be. I know that with a little support, you’ll be back on your feet and the frightening cloud of inner distress will be lifted.

I’ve sat in the offices of five different therapists in my life time. I don’t seem the type to want a therapist. I don’t have any abuse in my past. I come from a happy home with loving mothers. I’ve sat across from many therapists, waiting for me to unleash my supposed repressed memories of a painful childhood- but I simply don’t have any.

But what I do have is this anxiety, this panic, this depression, that grips it’s long, jagged fingernails tightly into the walls of brain, making it hard to breathe or insure straight or feel normal. The medication built me sicker than my nervousnes did, so I went to therapy instead.

I’ve sat across from all types of therapists. Male, female, old, young, black, white, free, professional, cognitive behavior therapists, counselors, talkative, quiet…the list goes on. I’ve had good therapists…and I’ve had very bad therapists.

But I’m here to tell you something important. There is NO SHAME in discovering counseling, therapy, wisdom, subsistence. There is NO SHAME in telling someone you meet with a therapist or counselor. There is NO SHAME in attempting help. There is NO SHAME in realizing you need an unbiased third party.

In fact, it’s the bravest thing you can do. The ultimate sort of self-care. The champion of natural redress. Opening up to a stranger is frightening. But I’m telling you…it’s worth it. It is. You’ll find this version of yourself that you didn’t realize you had in you- one that is brave, and worthy of healing from feelings that gnaw at you.

Realize it is GOOD to talk about the wounds that haunt you.

An highly dear friend recently told him that ” All people could benefit from going to counseling. The smart people actually go .”

Be a smart person. Take the first step. You can do it. It’s worth it. I promise.

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15 Things You Should Stop Letting People Do To You

1. Stop letting people tell you how you should live.

Or what you should wear or who you should date or what you should eat.

2. Stop letting people drain your energy.

Detach yourself from these people and dont invite their negativity into your life.

3. Stop letting people pry into your personal life.

People who have no business being in your life in the first place. Maintain your distance from those who only want to gossip about you.

4. Stop letting people make fun of your dreams.

Small intellects discuss small ideas, if you want to dream big, you have to surround yourself with people who believes in dreams or people who have stimulated their dreamings come true.

5. Stop letting people fool you twice .

If someone convinced you theyve changed and you dont believe it, dont give them a second opportunity. You will only be to yourself.

6. Stop letting people give you the advice theyre not taking.

If they dont practise what they preach, dont listen to them. They probably dont want what’s best for them to know what’s best for you.

7. Stop letting people pinpoint your failures.

Sadly, some people feel better about themselves when they belittle others. Dont give them that power. Stand your ground or walk away for good.

8. Stop letting people induce “youre feeling” unlovable.

People who keep telling you how difficult you are or why you need to change. You are a work in progress and some people love you and embrace your mess. Stick to those people. They are

9. Stop letting people take advantage of your kindness.

Or demand all your time. Be a good friend but always know when you are being taken for granted.

10. Stop letting people steer you away from your passion.

Because its crazy or unrealistic or doesnt pay the bills. Dont let them stop you from seeking your

11. Stop letting people pressure you with time.

People love timelines and deadlines. Do your best and let God take care of the timing of your life.

12. Stop letting people label you.

Vulnerable. Emotional. Crazy. Indecisive. Complicated. People love labels but that doesnt mean you should them. Hurl away their labels.

13. Stop letting people talk you out of your ideas.

You have to take risks and take a leap of faith. Dont share all your ideas with people who will not understand them.

14. Stop letting people blame you for what goes wrong in their life.

Dont let people scapegoat you for their shortcomings.

15. Stop letting people take more than their share in your life.

At the end of the working day, people can unintentionally drain you or let you down. When someone is pushing their opinion on you, remember that you do not “re going to have to” it.

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How To Get Over Someone You Merely Sort Of Dated

So you dated someone and thought he was the one! Awarded, you thought the delivery guy who accidentally grazed your limb as he handed you the pizza was also the one, but thats beside the point.

If youre anything like mesomeone who obsesses over a hot barista just because they spell your name right several months in a rowyoure likely currently struggling to get over person you dated, even if you two were only official in your head.

Below are some tips-off on how to get over person , no matter how long you actually dated or how serious the relationship was.

STEP 1: CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION

After a breakup there is always one person who suggests remaining friends. But you cant move on if the past is persisting nearby.

Delete his number if necessary, unfollow him on all social media platforms if it hurts too much to see him in your feeds, and block his number if you think youll end up texting him after 19 tequila shots at happy hour.

And dont run generating fake accounts and still stalk him after I merely “ve told you” not to! Its bad for your health. Im serious Barbara!

STEP 2: Yell, LIKE, A LOT

Youre like Huh? Do you even know what youre talking about?

I mean, likely not.

But I believe that you need to cry. You need to connect with your feelings. Cry about why it didnt work up, yell about how much you wish it had, scream because right now feels like the end of the world because youre mourning the death of a relationship.

F* ck it.

Have a breakdown at the DMV! Cry at Starbucks when they spell your name wrong. Cry at a random wedding that you werent even invited to. Scream it out at all the most inappropriate moments because this is your time to let it all out.

Give yourself permission to feel and to scream until youve got nothing left to cry about.

Take all the time you need and do not mask your feelings since that they are able to just prolong the process of getting over this 2-day or 2-year relationshit.

STEP 3: GET A HOBBY

The best style to distract yourself is to get busy and get a hobby.

No, stalking all of his social media platforms is NOT a pastime( Seriously Barbra, chill the f* ck out ). I dont know why we look at things we know will hurt us. Maybe some of us are just addicted to the ache and its all we know but wouldnt it be nice to feel something other than emotional pain for once? I think so!

Is eating a pastime ?? Wow, you really dont know how boring you are until you realize that your only two hobbies are feeing and staring at your cat.

All gags aside try and become obsessed over something new instead of your ex whether its a better diet, working out, masturbating, volunteering, your career or a new dick with a side of dick. The options are endless!

For me, writing my impressions down genuinely helped move on along with wine and my cat. Also masturbating and Netflix and chocolate, lots of chocolate.

Ok, Ill stop.

STEP 4: DONT REACT TO ANYTHING

This is something I am really bad atbut hey, learn from my mistakes.

So you run into him at a bar and although he has smells like he hasnt showered in weeks and hes starting to go bald and you could literally floss your teeth with everything that body hair, to you he is the same do-no-wrong angel you fell in love with.

Whatever the reason hes abruptly on your intellect, DO NOT REACT. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing that you care. You will only invite more sorrow by engaging him in any context because then you will have to start the mourning process ALL OVER AGAIN. And trust me, this time WILL NOT BE DIFFERENT. You are over for a reason, you do not need 734 more tries and 1065 embarrassing texts to figure that out!

Do not give into the alcohol or that voice in your vagina telling you that you need him. You DO NOT need him! What you need is some ice cream, a vibrator, and Netflix.

STEP 5: GET YOUR ASS OUT OF THE HOUSE

My first instinct after a breakup is to stay home and feel sorry for myself. Unfortunately, that results me to sit for hours investigating the relationship and then cry out for hours then binge feed then yell again then stalk my ex on social media which follows by more tears till I fall asleep with food in my hair.

What you need to do is put something sexy on and force yourself to go out. If clubbing isnt your thing then only have a girls night in and bond with your friends. One big mistake girls build is drop their friends when they get a boyfriend, dont be that girl. You will regret it.

Being around friends will distract you and help you remember to smile and laugh. You Require your girlfriends, and you need to remember what its like to giggle and be happy.

If you need to giggle but your friends are assholes, theres always @daddyissues_ on Instagram!

STEP 6: FIND YOURSELF A REBOUND

To be honest, Ive tried to rebound with another guy before I was ready and objective up getting attached to the rebound dude and then weeping over two guys simultaneously, which was super exhausting and terrible for my mental health.

But when I got my cat Pancakes after a breakup, it ran. Pancakes was my rebound! I focused on my cat, my work, my friends, and myself instead of rebounding with another dude.

But if youre more into get your pickle tickled then join a dating site like christianmingle.com or glutenfreelovers.com and go out there and get yourself a rebound guy! Let this dude show you what a real orgasm is like while he bangs all those pesky impressions youre harboring for your ex right out of your vagina.

But dont get attached because then youll just “re going to have to” re-read this whole blog again.

STEP 7: FORGIVE YOUR EX

I know this sounds silly, but its true: As long as you hold a grudge towards your ex, you wont be able to move on. Half of the time its our ego that isnt letting us move on. Disliking someone takes a lot more energy than you think. It means that you still have strong feelings for this person and that he still has a hold on you.

Now, to be clear, I am not telling you to contact your ex and let him know that youve forgiven him! Please dont do that because youre just going to end up having sexuality with him and then youre going to be like, so what are we? And hes going to be like, my new girlfriend is about to come home, pat you on the head, thank you for the sex, and send you on your style to Starbucks to break down again.

What I am suggesting is that you forgive him in your head. Realise that the damage has been done and there is nothing anyone can do to mend it. You have to accept the pain hes caused you and let it go in order to move on.

Working through your impressions towards this person will help you rebuild your identity as someone who can thrive without that guy.

STEP 8: TRUST THAT TIME HEALS

Honestly, this step is probably the hardest since period slows down when youre heartbroken. I know its clich, but it really is true: Time heals everything!( except herpes ).

When I was going through my first breakup, I screamed myself to sleep for weeks and every night before bed I would persuade myself that I was over him until the working day I woke up and I really was over him. I stopped screaming and started thinking about him less and less until the working day I actually felt nothing when I find a picture of him.

STEP 9: LOVE YOURSELF

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP.

Heartbreak can really crush your self-esteem and while were dealing with the damage of a breakup we sometimes forget to focus on ourselves.

I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and see how beautiful you are. I want you to remember how great you arethat you dont need anyone else to complete you because you complete yourself.

I want you to become everything youve ever wanted to be while you move on from a relationship that wasnt right for you. I want you to stop being negative and blaming yourself for why it didnt work out. It was not your faulting, you are perfect merely the route you are. There was nothing you could have done better, get that thought out of your head.

Once you start focusing on loving yourself, you will begin to attract good energy and the right people will enter your life. When you least expect it, you will find a new love, a better love. But hopefully you will first find it with yourself.

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The Real Way To Get Engaged According To My Facebook Friends

There comes a time in our mid twenties when abruptly all the people you knew and loved and barely said a word to in 9 th grade biology class start getting engaged.

You think to yourself a variety of things such as, When did they even get an S/ O? and Wow they can do better to even I can barely feed myself three times a day or fold my laundry and these people CAN HANDLE A WHOLE OTHER PERSON ATTACHED TO THEM ALL THE TIME?

So here are the 10 buffoon proof steps to follow if you plan on getting engaged and screaming to the world I’M CHANGING MY TAX FORMS!

1 . Post a picture of spontaneous moment taken by a. some lurking friend or b . Professional engagement photographer if youre fancy. This must be at the top of a hiking trail, a beach, or scenic city. If not might as well not even hold yourself a HUMAN WORTHY OF LOVE.

2 . Post a scene announcing you are going to marry your best friend. This of course is replacing your actual life long best friend who you now no longer need since you are oh so to be marriage. Remember that romantic partners come before everybody else in their own lives. Romantic love is the most important thing in the world and if no one wants to marry you; you die from pathetic loneliness.

3 . Post a image proclaiming you are now the future Mr. Or Mrs. Whatever and throw away your last name. This goes for all sexualities. Bonus points if you keep it you progressive thing you! This must be written in fancy script on a rustic chalk board otherwise your name becomes I AM SHIT # 245642 on your birth certificate.

4 . Post a picture of your hand with THE Ring. Become the hand model youve always wanted to be. Clutch it, exhales on it, and if anyone tries to touch it shriek and hiss and go back to your hideaway in the bumpy mountainous abyss.

5 . Post a picture of you and your spouse together on this special day! Make sure you pose in such a way that communicates you will be boring mothers in 5-10 years.

6 . DONT. STOP. POSTING. EVER. The day is now for likes, loves, and wows. No one will ever give you this much attention than this year of their own lives again. The institution operates real deep and were all automatically obligated as humen to like people happy events.

7 . Post a status about how much you love your family and friends for all the subsistence and congrats. Genuinely drag it out; dont doubt yourself sunshine, youre the superstar of the prove!

8 . Reinforce to these same friends and family that this is the biggest accomplishment of your life and not your doctorate thesis, or community award, or Nobel peace prize. You dirty ole ragged thing discovered someone to schtup you on a regular basis for a while! Its truly something.

9 . Record the dress/ suit shopping, the planning, the bridal party invites( so everyone knows which friends get snubbed and destined to their fate as lowly regular guests ), the bridal rain invites, the golden rain invites, and every time you take a shit because now that shit is ENGAGED.

10 . Always remember to make sure you put the GAG in ENGAGED so people like me can be hilarious and bitter for the rest of our sad sad lives!

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50 Little Reminder That Will Get You Through Any Tough Day

1. Weve all had them and you are not alone .

2 . Tomorrow is a fresh start where today can be washed away.

3 . We have all gone through loss, but the best stories are when you grow stronger from that loss.

4 . You are still alive and breathing.

5 . Youre worthy of greatness even if you dont see it yet.

6 . What you are feeling today does not define you.

7 . Time truly heals most anything.

8 . Count your boons , not your calories.

9. You are allowed to not going to be okay .

10 . Your nervousnes or depression is nothing to be ashamed of.

11 . Person in this world cares deeply about you.

12 . Asking for help does not stimulate you weak.

13 . Forty-years from now, you wont am worried about eating more than one piece of cake.

14 . Comparing yourself to others, will do nothing but injury your mind.

15 . Everyone is overly conscious of themselves and probably will never notice your blemishes.

16 . Dont keep your negative impressions concealed. Talk to someone.

17 . Every day is a gift to do something new .

18 . Even if today sucked, tomorrow could be the best day of your life.

19 . We think too much and feel too little. Charlie Chaplin

20 . Smiling can create your endorphins, so go on and give it a go.

21 . So can cuddling.

22 . We live in a world where chocolate exists.

23. Today is not forever .

24 . Taylor Swift had to get over Joe Jonas, Harry Styles, and Jake Gyllenhaal. If she did it, you can do it too.

25 . Being sad for no reason does not mean youre crazy. Youre simply human.

26 . Its not international crimes to take a day off from real life and take care of yourself.

27 . If you are living, you are still surviving and becoming stronger.

28. The past can hurt, but the route I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it The Lion King

29 . You will love again, I promise.

30 . The most beautiful things you can get from life are free.

31 . Yes, you can buy edible cookie dough and not get sick from it.

32 . You dont have to be so brave all the time.

33 . Your real friends will not think your sadness is a burden. Devote them a call.

34 . Sometimes all you need is a very good hug.

35. The worst days wont be as memorable as the best days that are yet to come .

36 . Being happy all the time, won’t give you good experience and won’t teach you anything about yourself.

37 . When a bloom doesnt bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows , not the flower. Alexander Den Heijer

38 . If you have a roof over your head, thats already one thing to be grateful about.

39 . Its ok to not love yourself 100% right now, but take everyday to let yourself know youre doing your best.

40 . If there is a negative person in their own lives that attains “youre feeling” horrible, cut them out of your life and watch it get better.

41 . Even Beyonce has terrible days.

42 . Dont let your demons from the past ruining your future.

43 . Merely in darkness are you able see the stars. Martin Luther King Jr.

44. Allowing yourself to cry and to feeling, is allowing yourself to mend .

45 . Taking baby steps is better than not taking any at all.

46 . You are more important than you even know.

47 . Your life is precious and beautiful. Dont take that for granted.

48 . Pain is merely a fleeting moment. Its not your whole life.

49 . Listen to what your body is telling you and follow its advice.

50. You are here because you are a miracle. Dont let one day ruin it all for your future ego .

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Trust In The Timing Of Your Life

Life is chaotic sometimes. Just as you think everything is going swimmingly, something happens that sends you out of whack. It stimulates you a little bit adrift and this unsettling feeling is hard to shake. Whether its losing your job, your SO, or even if your favorite coffee shop closes down( yes, this would suck for me ), its important to take a step back, exhale and surrender.

I always get into a funk when my life goes off balance. Sometimes I feel like Ive taken one step forwards and two steps back. Thats when I stop and realise,

It’s okay.

Its okay to feel behind, its okay not to be okay, but at the same hour its important to pick yourself up. I give myself 10 emotional minutes in a day if I need it, then I get up and remind myself that I am a gangster( with a matcha latte and a yoga mat ).

Accept.

We want to control everything around us, the situations and the person or persons, but youve got to remember that you cant control every aspect of your life. Dont waste your energy into things you cant control. Instead, utilize that energy to get yourself closer to those goals and being the best version of yourself.

Trust.

Trust in life and trust in yourself. Trust that where you are at in your life at the moment is the right thing and the thing this is necessary most. Dont compare your life to others, everyone is on an individual journey and is on a completely different route and scrolling through your feed upon social media isnt going to stimulate you feel better if you think everyone is ahead of you. Life isnt a race so slow down.

Learn.

Learn from the struggles, falls, heartache, heartbreak, loss, and endings. Because when something ends, a new thing begins. Learn from the people who have come into your life and left, learn from the people who are still here, learn from your experiences good and bad, and most of all learn from yourself.

Celebrate.

We all have objectives that we one day trying to achieve, but in the meantime celebrate your small wins and keep yourself motivated. Focusing on only the big goal can be daunting at times when you think youre not getting closer to it, so look at each step as a tick in the box, getting you that much closer to your goals and go and have that glass of wine and celebrate( any excuse for a tipple ).

Be grateful.

Be grateful for everything in your life. Acknowledge the good no matter how small. You woke up this morning and have another chance at life, you have great friends and family, you have a roof over your head whatever it is, be grateful.

Remember, life is amazing, then awful. And then its amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the nasty, and relax and exhale during the course of its ordinary. Thats just living, heart-breaking, soul-healing, astounding, nasty, ordinary life and its breathtakingly beautiful.

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25 Promises You Should Attain To Yourself Today For A Better Tomorrow

Of all the promises we make, the most important point ones will be the promises we induce to ourselves and how we plan on to be maintained. Here are 25 promises you should build to yourself today 😛 TAGEND

1. Promise yourself to accept who you are now until you work on being the best possible version of yourself.

2. Promise yourself to let love in when it knocks on your door no matter how many times youve been hurt before. Promise yourself to let loveheal you.

3. Promise yourself to walk away from the relationship you dont deserve.

4. Promise yourself to leave a place you dont belong in: a task, a country, an apartment…just leave.

5. Promise yourself to appreciate your friends and your family and everyone you love and show them how much they mean to you.

6. Promise yourself to forgive yourself for your past mistakes and failures and start over with a solid heart.

7. Promise yourself to be kinder to yourself and give yourself thesameamount of support you would give others.

8. Promise yourself to do more of what makes you happy, even if you have to do it alone.

9. Promise yourself to tell person how you really feel about them if they cant construct you sleep at night.

10. Promise yourself to try harder to do what you love and turn your life around.

11. Promise yourself to let the toxic people in your life go.

12. Promise yourself to let the toxic supposes in your intellect go.

13. Promise yourself to be a lot more spontaneous and a litttle less calculated.

14. Promise yourself to live a life that feelings right to you not anyone else.

15. Promise yourself to find something good in every painful experience.

16. Promise yourself to find happiness in the smaller things in life.

17. Promise yourself to take good care of your body and take good care of your mind.

18. Promise yourself to forget whats behind you and start appreciating whats in front of you.

19. Promise yourself to stop comparing their own lives to others.

20. Promise yourself to listen to your intestine when it advises you about something.

21. Promise yourself to help someone when they need you.

22. Promise yourself topick your battles wisely.

23. Promise yourself to start facing your fears.

24. Promise yourself to start believing in miracles.

25. Promiseyourselfto keep as much of these promises as you can.

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13 Newlyweds On Exactly How They Plan To Beat The Odds And Stay Faithful Forever

1. On a whim the other night, my wife started reading this sexy book out loud to me andI was rapt. That led to some really fun experimenting. Entirely new sexual territory for us. I only keep reminding myself that theres much better for us to do together. If you’re open-minded and committed to keeping the passion alive, there’s really nothing to worry about.

2. I started giving my husband sexual coupons( e.g. One start to finish blowie, redeemable with 48 hours notice) for special occasions a year or so into our relationship. Hes always loved them, and I think they give us both a healthy sense of security. He likes having a hoard of sex favors he can cash in, and I’m convincedthecoupons keep his dirty believes centered on me. When it comes to marital loyalty, coupons might just bethe best kept secret.

3. ” People always assume its the man whos more likely to cheat, but Im way more sex than my husband is. Fortunately, Im also an accomplishedmasturbator. As long as I’ve got ateam of vibrators at my bedside, I won’t be seduced to dabble outside our marriage .”

4. I fought with porn craving a few years back, when my wife was still my girlfriend. When I came clean, it was a big jolt toherself-esteem. But onceshe accepted that I had a problem, she came through with a genius plan.Instead of the typical date night, westay homeand induce our own sexy videos. It maintains us connectednot just sexually but emotionallyand I am one hundred percent certain were gonna make it long-term without any affairs getting in the way thanks to DIY porn.

5. There was a moment when I came close to making out with my colleague a few weeks after my husband and I tied the knot, but I pulled back in time. I’m not naive enough to think that we won’t be tempted sometimes, but I feel like Im programmed not to go there because I genuinely do love my husband that much. And I know in my heart that he feels just as strongly.

6. My wifes horny af. I wouldnt have marriage her otherwise because Im a guy who needs to get laid at the least once a day. But so does she! Were a perfect match. Seriously, were the happiest couple I know.

7. Right after the wedding, my husband and I experienced the early onset of the Seven Year Itch syndrome. Neither of us was all that interested in intimacyat least not with one another. But Im a type-Aladyand I refused to give up on us. I did a lot of research and we tried a bunch of things until we found somethingthatworks for us: A sex schedule. It might voice completely unsexy to schedule sex, but its not. My spouse LOVES the guarantee of sex, and we both have fun sending one another dirty calendar invites. Its such a simple measure, truly, so Im confident well always be able to rekindle the flamewhenever we need to.

8. My wife and I wedded later than most of our friends, and all of them were always telling us that wedding would kill our sex life. So whenwe gotengaged, we decided to beproactive about developing a really honest sexual dialogue. We started checking in with one another at least once a week merely to make sure were both okayin all areas, including sexuality. You cant assume someones happy. You have to ask them, and also be receptive to feedback if you want things to last.

9. My husband threw his back out jet skiing on our honeymoon andhe was bedridden for days. One morning he prayed me for a handy sincehe wasnt truly able to have sex. I rejected because I thoughta handjobwould be bad for his back if he was writhing his pelvis and hips. Hegot mad, and started screaming about how he’d “re going to have to” order amassage and a happy ending if I didn’t help him. I said, Fine! But if start taking liberties, will too. Then we both cracked up because we knew “were in” both full of shit. Theres balance between useven when we battle, you know? And we have this shared sense of humor we can count on tobring us back to solid ground.

10. Marriage is hard work and part of that work is keeping your partner sexually satisfied. Im fortunateto be married to a woman who reallyunderstands thatgive-and-take. Sometimes were both really into making love, but sometimes one of us is clearly doing the other a favor in get naked and thats okay. We live bya kind of unspoken pact that maintains us bothcontent.

11. Weve only been married for six months, and let me say to you: After the wedding, theres a definite drop off in the excitement level. The chaos ends and its easy to freak out. What Ive realise is that its important to shape your own position every single day. You can stress out thinking, oh my God, Im stuck with one girl for the rest of my life, or you can take comfort in a gues like, I am one luck human to get to come home to an amazing female every single night. Positive thinking, human. That’s how I do it.

12. Im not shy. Ill tap into my inner animal and get freaky in the sack and my husband knows he cant get that from other women, inevitably. He dated a bunch of women who were sex dud before we got together. If you want to make sure your partner doesnt cheat, just be the best sexuality they can have.

13. Ill tell you what my buddy were talking about staying faithful for a lifetime: One day at a time. Its the only style forward.

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To The Guy Who I Loved And Ultimately Lost

To the guy I loved and lost ,

Sometime ago I had a dreaming that I was in the prettiest white dress, and I wasjust about to walk down the aisle. As I approached the alter I assured the mostravishingly dressed-up guy; you. I was undoubtedly the happiest person in the worldas I looked into your bright and enchanting eyes. From your warm embrace, Icouldve reeked you as I leaned in closer. Your touch was so comforting, until I woke up and I realized I was alone.

Without your presence in my life, I live one alone, which is an excruciating and profound reminder that you are no longer a part ofme. We no longer speak to each other like we used to, but its already dawn. Its theday that I should start my life anew and I cant even rest at ease.

Within a few hours, I will arise from bedand do my morning routine. Ill shower and get dressed for my new task withcomplete awareness that you wont be there in the evening for me to tell you howmy day passed.

Subsequently, Ill likely be all alone feeing KFC while facingthe wrath of reality that the only person I want to talk to at the end of my day is theonly person I cant speak to.

I am basically a bomb might wish to explosion since it all happened. An entity of self-loath and loneliness was something I didnt think I was capable of being. That wasuntil I detected myself alone, staring at the four bedroom walls surrounding me andsobbing so uncontrollably, that I couldnt catch my breath . The night we broke up, Iinstantaneously packed up the stuff that you gave to me. I neatly folded your t-shirtthat I claimed from your DC comic collection. After which I cleared my room ofeverything that jogged my memory of your existence in my world. As a result, my room is also now beset with different things that remind me that, even though youre no longer present in my life; youd never be too remote frommy thinks. I can confess that there will be days that Id take that batman t-shirtand wear it as I pretend to be okay again . Ive started the procedure provided for in standardizing my life devoid of you in the working day ofyour absence. Gawkily filling the gaps that you once occupied with my black andwhite describes, old associates, all genres of movies and more ice cream than weboth can eat.

Despite all of my efforts to accept the situation and move forward, I constantly contemplate that with enough time, your decision will change. I hope that you want me in your life and there will be an us again. I anticipatethat youstill love me.

I keep thinking that youll change your intellect once again and insure meas the woman who will be standing next to you on the day of your wedding.

Wewould be the couple chilling on the sofa after we put the kids to bed. I imagine thatyou will reconsider your decision and return to me.However, I dont just want you to change your intellect. I want you to make up yourmind . I want you to make up your mind that it is you want, and show me that Iwasnt wrong to love you so unconditionally. I wanted to believe you when yousaid that you wanted to expend the rest of your life with me. I want you to make upyour mind that while there are lots of stunning women in the world, whod be betterin bed, that I am the only one you truly love. I want you to make up your mind thatIm the person that attains you the happiest and also give your life a new definition.

Unfortunately due to the circumstances, Im unaware of when or if this would everbe a reality, and thats the most difficult facet of this situation. There is thepossibility that the love of their own lives may simply not be me. Either style, I started my new occupation and Im still scared and nervousnervous asever. Youre the only person that can soothe me and tomorrow Ill be leaving homewithout your encouraging words that everything will be okay. You wont be ableto hear about it at night. Ill get through each day one step at a time while alsotrying to assure everyone that I am fine.

I am fine with the knowledge that youresomewhere else, doing something else and maybe with someone else. Ill expelyou from my mind and simply carry on. Until the working day I pass by the ice creamparlor and recollect your favorite flavor or even see your favourite color.Until the instant where my phone vibrates, until that creed or Shania twain songplays. Until I have to go to sleep. And until I have to fall apart and have to start all overagain. Without you .

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17 Ways Lazy Girls Fake Having Their Shit Together

I’m one of those lazy girls that constantly floats between wearing glasses and sweatpants, to the whole nine yards with murderer heels and a little black dress. But, the majority of cases( all the time ), I’d rather not really try.I have come to find that , none of us really have to try so hard to seem like weknow what we’re doing. It’s easier than it seems.

1 . Throw your hair up in a messy bun . No matter your hair texture, or how badly the ends of your strands seem, you can always set it up and spray with a bit of hairspray to make sure it lasts all day.

2 . Sunglasses . They hide tired eyes, puffy eyes, hangovers, and blemishes. They are truly the best accessory. You don’t even require make-up.

3 . Starbucks . I don’t care if you despise it, but carrying around a Starbucks cupin your hand induces you lookSOdarn fancy.

4 . Wine . Display wine bottles all over your place. Collect the corks to display on your coffee table. Basically, wine will always be the answer. No matter what.

5 . LaCroix Water . I likely will never be able to pronounce it, but when you pull one out of your purse, you will look fancy as f* ck.

6 . Throw on a dress . Candidly, why even bother putting on pants anymore?

7 . Always order the biggest plate of pasta you can . Literally, everyone else with their pathetic salads are going to stare at you with jealousy. #winning. #alwayssayyestopasta.

8 . Save old selfies . Whenever “youre feeling” on’ fleek ‘, take a scene. On the days when you are lying in bed with nothing to do, post one of those old but HOT pictures of yourself. Likes guaranteed.

9 . Google pictures of the gym . Then, post some believable ones on your snapchat. Keep’ murdering’ in bed.

10 . If you must go out, don’t forgotten your’ medicine ‘. Now, when you want to leave early to a collect, depict your friends your’ antibiotics’ that the doctor prescribed for you. You are free to goes, and in the clear.

11 . Fairy lightings . So, you don’t feel like vacuuming or cleaning your apartment up at all? Not a problem. Buy some cute suns, hang them up, and your friends won’t even notice the disaster that is right in from of them.

12 . Adult coloring books . Some may say you’re lazy for not going out on a Friday night, Isay you are relaxing your intellect with some good old fashioned fun( and alcohol ).

13 . Build up your bed . No matter how messy and disgusting your bedroom is, attaining up your bed will always make you look like you are on top of things.

14 . Always have gum on hand . Sometimes, you forget to brush your teeth while you were in a rush to get work. What does the job? Gum. Sometimes, you have a really bad hangover and brushing your teeth isn’t cutting it. What does the job? Gum.

15 . Dry shampoo . We all don’t have time to wash our hair every single day. Meet dry shampoo: your new best friend. It get rid of excess oil and constructs it look like you actually tried( for once ).

16 . Fake plants . I don’t know what it is about plants, but they are really hard to take care of( or it’s just me ). Solution? Fake flowers, fake hydrangeas, and fakesucculents will construct you seem like the queen of having your shit together.

17 . When all else fails, stop devoting a crap . Pay no intellect to the persons who to continue efforts to put you down. Espouse your laziness. Embrace who you are. You’re freaking awesome.

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