22 Sane Way To Figure Out What In The World You’re Doing With Your Career

Change inspires both fear and excitement, and one of our greatest talents is learning to manage both. Sometimes we have to be a little like a trapeze artist we have to let go of one bar before we catch the new one.- Nick Williams, writer of The Run We Were Born to Do

You just finished college or graduate school and are looking for your first task. Youre in a job you dislike. Youre in a job you love, but with no upward mobility. Youre thinking about going back to school. You tried to start your own thing and it didnt work up. Or youve been traveling or having “childrens and” “ve tried to” re-enter the workforce.

Whatever situation youre in, at some phase youre going to wind up asking yourself: What do I do next? Where do I go from here? How do I figure out my next step ?

In my experience, there are three distinct stages you must pass through in order to be able to answer these questions: turning inward, seeking external inspiration, and then taking action. The first two stages instruct you to basically stop everything. Because figuring out what to do next is like needing to tie your shoelace. You cant do it while youre still operating; you have to pause and do it properly.

But you also have to keep running eventually. You dont get anywhere in life by pure philosophizing you get places by doing, and thats where the last stage be coming back. Youve devoted yourself a chance to catch your breath, which youve done while honoring the crucial balance between internal reflection and external inspiration, and now youre well-equipped with the information and confidence you need to make a decision.

Heres a break-down of the 22 steps I recommend for getting unstuck and moving forward with conviction in your personal and professional life.

STAGE 1: TURN INWARD

1. Give yourself time in silence . Spend 15 -3 0 minutes every morning without any noise or distractions. Ask your heart topics( What is my next step? What would I really be happy doing ?) and listen to what responses come from your hunch. We spend so much of our days doing that we dont give ourselves any time for just being. 2. Travel . This doesnt have to be the whole lose yourself to find yourself line because I know from 3+ years of traveling that it doesnt actually happen like that. What I entail is to seek motion and exploration: a long auto ride, an afternoon in a place with good people-watching, a short weekend away. A change of scenery is tremendously inspirational, as is problem-solving and demonstrating self-sufficiency. 3. Think about your childhood . What things were you naturally good at? What are your happiest memories? What did you dream of doing before the world starting pushing and pulling on you? Let your past successes help inform your future.

4. Record your dreamings. Dreams are an incredible window into your subconscious mind. Before you go to bed, spend time reflecting and asking yourself for clarity about your next step. Leave a notebook under your pillow and, upon waking, write off your dreams before you move, look at the time, or check your cell phone. Reflect on reoccurring situations, emblems, people, and places.

5. Go for a daily walk . Many great creative and powerful intellects swear by walking( no music , no distractions) for inspiration and introspection: Gandhi, Stephen King, Thich Nhat Hanh, J.K. Rowling, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and Beethoven. Me thinks that the moment my legs begin to move, wrote Henry David Thoreau, my thoughts started to flow. A 2010 analyze found that strolling for 40 minutes 3 times a week enhanced the connectivity of important brain circuits, reduced declines in brain function associated with aging, and increased performance on cognitive tasks. 6. Journal about everything , but make sure you tackle these questions in written format 😛 TAGEND

When do I feel most successful/ proud/ motivated/ joyful? Why?

What have I enjoyed most about my life and career to date? What has caused me suffering? Why?( The why is an oft-forgotten piece of the puzzle and we dont often dig deep enough and keep asking ourselves the whys .)

If I could only change one thing about my life right now, what would it be?( And why ?)

What do I love about myself? What are my talents?

7. Have purposeful dreaming period . This is different from time in silence or time spent journaling. Its time to actively engage your imagination by visualizing alternating the chances of their own lives. The human minds capability to imagine the future with almost as much sensory details as real life is one of its most precious and sometimes paralyzing capabilities. Use it to your advantage!

8. Take fund out of the picture . You can put it back into the equation afterward, but its important to spend time actually considering what you would do if you didnt have to worry about finances. This mental workout also lets you take a step back and see how much fund does influence your decision-making, and if it has to influence it to the extent you allow it to.

STAGE 2: SEEK EXTERNAL INSPIRATION

9. Spend time with inspirational people . Ever heard the phrase You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? When youre looking to make a transition in their own lives, surround yourself with the kind of people you aspire to be, ones who can provide insight, connects, and new ideas. 10. Have deep conversations with family and friends . After a period of meaningful( and ongoing) introspection, you can begin to share what you are discovering about yourself and the world with others. Talk openly with the people closest to you and probe deeper than you normally would. Sometimes sharing your thoughts and longings out loud helps clarify or detect them for yourself. 11. Dont ask for advice the usual style . Instead of asking others what they would do in your shoes, ask them how they would decide what to do if they were you. The how provides decision-making frameworks that maintain YOU in the drivers seat all there is allowing a helpful degree of outside opinion. 12. Read a lot . I recommend autobiographies of people you find inspirational, as well as a few personal growth books specifically oriented around career and purpose, such as Body of Work by Pamela Slim and The Work We Were Born to Do by Nick Williams. Also, read widely about topics of interest to you. By following your intellectual curiosity, you can discover new fields you might like to explore. 13. Take up a new hobby . This related to curiosity, too. Learning something new is inspirational, and it also awards you the ability to see yourself succeeding in new frontiers. Not to mention that it often leads to meeting different kinds of people who can enrich your life and open up unforeseen pathways. 14. Do some productive stalking . Spend time on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and Google and create a spreadsheet of all the people and careers you find inspirational. The aim is to answer the question: Who do you admire and why?

STAGE 3: TAKE ACTION

15. Work on your health and physical well-being . Its easy to forget that the body and mind are intimately connected. Nourishing yourself with daily exercising and a healthy diet will enormously impact your self-esteem and theres nothing better for plotting a career move than feeling great about yourself! 16. Reach out . Remember all that productive stalking? Now you are going to use that datum! Start reaching out to people on email, LinkedIn, and other social media and request short Skype or coffee sessions to pick their brain about their career route( what I call informational interviewing ). 17. Set up 5 scheduled interview . For any tasks at all. Its important to get out there and hear yourself communicating about your talents and experience. Its even better to start practising by doing interviews where you are relatively unattached to the outcome so you are able to perform well, but are certain and relaxed. This approach can also lend you new ideas: perhaps you never would have considered a certain position or company before, but casting a wide interview net opened up new realms of possibility. 18. Work for free . This is the greatest test of your talents, experience, and ability to contribute. Those people you reached out to for informational interviews? Do something helpful for them for free. Send them a deck of research on a new marketplace they might be interested in. Connect them to someone you know who could help their business. Make a small database of potential new clients for them. Get creative! Or boldly ask a company you admire if you could work for free for them for 3 months for the sake of exposure and to prove yourself. 19. Brainstorm all your alternatives . Sit down and make a listing of every conceivable next step you could take: grad school, sabbatical, joining a friends start up, creating an online business, staying in your current role, asking for a promotion, making a lateral move, changing fields entirely, etc. Once youve brainstormed every road you would possibly want to consider, narrow it down to a listing of 2-4 options that seem most interesting to you. 20. Focus on the first step . For your short-listed options, figure out what the first logical step to achieve them would be. If you think grad school could be the right transitional move, then the first step is to identify programs of interest. If you want to make a lateral move( say you like your position but dislike the company or industry ), then you are able want to attend a networking event in your field to satisfy representatives of different companies. The notion is to take small , non-committal steps in a few directions to get a feel for those paths. 21. Try something . The key to making a transition in life is to avoid paralysis at all costs, because you wont get anywhere through reflection alone. Its important that, once youve analyzed all feasible options and tested the waters with a few short-listed alternatives, you take action! Of course, your actions should be accompanied by an understanding that nothing in life is perfect , nor is anything entirely permanent. Youll never know until you try, so you simply have to try. 22. Choose to focus on the best example scenario . When change is upon us, we naturally focus on and plan for the worst that could happen, which is a natural part of our survival-based biology. Instead, try making a decision based on the best thing that could happen and see how that inspires confidence in inducing your next big move.

In the end, its paramount to realize that your next step does not have to define the rest of their own lives, it merely has to provide momentum. It has to retain your happiness of today and offer an incremental growth in your happiness of tomorrow, but it doesnt have to account for your happiness 5 or 10 years from now.

Think about how much time and energy you probably garbage trying to project yourself 3, 5, 7 years into the future and surmise what future you would want and base your decision-making today on that hypothetical person who may or may not ever come into being.

Taking the next step or changing direction doesnt have to be a long, complex, and emotionally draining experience. In reality, practicing the above steps on a regular basis can actually help to sustain momentum and naturally offer opportunities for personal and professional advancement, allowing you to live a life of seamless transitions and self-assured navigation.

This post originally appeared at Life Before 30

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30 Hardships I Suffered Before I Turned 30

1. Got depressed because my daddy ran broke, lost our home, and went insane . Hed cry all the time, ask me whats wrong with me? and listen to music until he died. 2. Got depressed because the first ten girls I asked out didnt like me and said no . Two actually ran away before I finished my question. One said yes and then the next day told her friend to tell me no. 3. Got depressed when my mom hit me because I woke up my father after his surgery . He attained me stand in the middle of the room and not move while she came over and made me. 4. Got depressed when the first business I started, CollegeCard( a debit card for college student ), went out of business after less than a year . 5. Got depressed when I was hurled out of grad school . The letter cited absence of maturity. I had dinner the other day with the professor who wrote the letter. He said that it was Nobel-prize winning economist Herb Simon who said, why are we letting that guy sit at a desk doing nothing when we could have a student there who is doing something and I guess he was right.

6. Got depressed when women I was in love with went home for a few weeks to her “countries ” and their own families received a letter I wrote to her. So they arranged a wedding for her within days and when she came back into township she denied we ever were going out. I called a friend of mine on the phone but was screaming so much I couldnt speak and he couldnt figure out who I was so he hung up.

7. Got depressed when four novels I wrote didnt get published by the time I was 26.

8. Got depressed when 50 short narratives I wrote and sent out to magazines didnt get published . All of them got was denied by sort letters. Out of the thousands of letters and copies of writings I sent out in my 20 s I did not get back one personalized rejection. I ran ten hours a day on writing and nothing came of it in my 20 s, with no hope for the future. 9. Got depressed when a Tv reveal I pitched to HBO get rejected after we spent a year shooting a 45 minute pilot . The female in charge of the decision said, For material like this you need to either depict person shooting their mom while naked or show your neighbors f *** ing. She is now in charge of HBO Family programming. 10. Got depressed when a 13 year old little girl crushed me in chess . Her name, in fact, is Irina Krush. I was a strong player and had examined for years. She analyzed the game for me and told me where I went wrong on the ninth move. I gave up playing tournament chess then. 11. Got depressed when Amy opted another guy over me . I truly fell hard for her. She married him and has a kid. I ran into her a few years ago. I still fell hard for her. 12. Got depressed when I liked this girl, Jaimie, and she liked me , but I was always so nervous and intimidated by her that I couldnt perform . One night she literally kicked me until I fell out of the bed and she told me to get out. So that was that. 13. Got depressed when I moved into my first apartment by myself . I had only one foam mattress and it was hot and I had a fever and all my sweat soaked thoroughly into the mattress. When I woke up in feverish pain in the middle of the night on top of my sweat-soaked mattress I was covered by roaches. 14. Got depressed when I entered a tournament for writing a 3 Day Novel . I finished the fiction and I called my girlfriend at the time. I wanted to get together. She said, I thought we were taking a break. And that was that.

15. Got depressed when I quit my job because I thought my business was going to take off and on the first day full day at my business our largest client cancelled us.

16. Got depressed when I jumped off my bed, pretending to be Superman , and I broke my toe and had to wear a casting . Then I had to start a new school as a first grader and I was that kid limping with the cast. 17. Got depressed when I was ten years old and I was caught stealing football cards at the local plaything store . They turned my coat upside down and packs of cards came out. They said, is that it? and I said yes. They shook more. More packs “re coming out”. IS THAT IT? Yes. They shook more. More packsAnd so on. 18. Got depressed when ten minutes later they discovered my grandparents and asked them to come to the back of the store. The looking my grandmother “ve given me” .

19. Got depressed when I was 16 andI had so much acne and so many cysts you could barely see my face.Id hear daughters talking about me and looking at me and then look away when I appeared. One guy, Yung Shin, told me: merely try and smile a lot.

20. Got depressed because cysts are purple . 21. Got depressed when I cut school because I was so embarrassed of how I looked . I went into NYC and got mugged and my knapsack was stolen from me and a bunch of books I wanted to read that day. Afterwards: my mama asking me, where is your knapsack? and I had no answer.

22. Got depressed when I was eight andmy dad convinced me to donate all my games to charity and he would give me his tax write-off. I didnt even know what a taxation write-off was but I thought it was a lot of money. I devoted him about 20 games( Monopoly, Chutes& Ladders, Trouble, etc ). About six months later he gave me a dollar.

23. Got depressed the first semester of grad school when I failed ALL of my courses . Up until then I supposed I was smart. But at that moment I knew for the rest of my life I would have to fake it. 24. Got depressed when we moved to a new township when I was five . My new friends thought it would be fun to hold my hand on top of a burning barbecue for as long as possible. We moved a month or so after that. 25. Got depressed when I was unhappy in a relationship but we were living together and both of us too poor moved away . So I stayed at work and played online chess all of the time. At least 20 hours a day. And she would be upset at me and bang on my office door but I would lock it and pretend I wasnt there. 26. Got depressed when she cheated on me. But I deserved it . 27. Got depressed when my college girlfriend and I took Kung-Fu class Freshman year of college and she beat the shit out of me .

28. Got depressed when I started a brand new task in NYC and my dad bought me a suit and I was walking to run from the bus station when the woman standing two feet to my right was run over and killed by a taxicab that came up onto the sidewalk. I was depressed but it was worse for her.

29. Got depressed on my very first memory . I was in some sort of big crib even though I was too old for cribs. I was hollering. It was early in the morning. Eventually my grandmother lifted me out of the crib so I could play. I dont think I have another memory until at the least a year after that. 30. Was very happy the first time I was kissed. It felt like liquid electricity massaging all of the blood in my body .

And this was as bad as it get. Not so bad.

Sometimes I feel like Im the luckiest person alive.

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Trust In The Timing Of Your Life

Life is chaotic sometimes. Just as you think everything is going swimmingly, something happens that sends you out of whack. It stimulates you a little bit adrift and this unsettling feeling is hard to shake. Whether its losing your job, your SO, or even if your favorite coffee shop closes down( yes, this would suck for me ), its important to take a step back, exhale and surrender.

I always get into a funk when my life goes off balance. Sometimes I feel like Ive taken one step forwards and two steps back. Thats when I stop and realise,

It’s okay.

Its okay to feel behind, its okay not to be okay, but at the same hour its important to pick yourself up. I give myself 10 emotional minutes in a day if I need it, then I get up and remind myself that I am a gangster( with a matcha latte and a yoga mat ).

Accept.

We want to control everything around us, the situations and the person or persons, but youve got to remember that you cant control every aspect of your life. Dont waste your energy into things you cant control. Instead, utilize that energy to get yourself closer to those goals and being the best version of yourself.

Trust.

Trust in life and trust in yourself. Trust that where you are at in your life at the moment is the right thing and the thing this is necessary most. Dont compare your life to others, everyone is on an individual journey and is on a completely different route and scrolling through your feed upon social media isnt going to stimulate you feel better if you think everyone is ahead of you. Life isnt a race so slow down.

Learn.

Learn from the struggles, falls, heartache, heartbreak, loss, and endings. Because when something ends, a new thing begins. Learn from the people who have come into your life and left, learn from the people who are still here, learn from your experiences good and bad, and most of all learn from yourself.

Celebrate.

We all have objectives that we one day trying to achieve, but in the meantime celebrate your small wins and keep yourself motivated. Focusing on only the big goal can be daunting at times when you think youre not getting closer to it, so look at each step as a tick in the box, getting you that much closer to your goals and go and have that glass of wine and celebrate( any excuse for a tipple ).

Be grateful.

Be grateful for everything in your life. Acknowledge the good no matter how small. You woke up this morning and have another chance at life, you have great friends and family, you have a roof over your head whatever it is, be grateful.

Remember, life is amazing, then awful. And then its amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the nasty, and relax and exhale during the course of its ordinary. Thats just living, heart-breaking, soul-healing, astounding, nasty, ordinary life and its breathtakingly beautiful.

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Read These Five Papers to Understand Thaler’s Nobel-Winning Work

People act irrationally, a fact economists long dismissed. Richard Thaler, win of the 2017 Nobel prize in economics, has made a career of fixing that oversight.

In research that’s typically quirky, often funny, infused with pop-culture and written for a lay audience, Thaler of the University of Chicago has built the suit that human decisions are shaped by social context, expectation and temptation — not cold rationality.

Here, we run down some of his greatest reaches, a body of work that on Monday lifted Thaler to the pinnacle of economics.

1. Nudge

Thaler co-wrote the 2008 global bestseller Nudge with former White House adviser Cass Sunstein, a law professor at Harvard University and a Bloomberg View columnist. In it, the authors investigate why people induce the choices they do, looking at biases and the limits of human reason. In it, they attain the suit that while humans often make choices that don’t result in their longer-term well-being — for example, feeing unhealthy foods that lead to obesity — society can drive better decisions via “choice architecture, ” or by better coordinating the context in which people make decisions. To exemplify, they use the example of an actual designer. “As good designers know, apparently arbitrary decisions, such as where to locate the bathrooms, will have subtle influences on how the people who use the building interact, ” they write in their introduction.” A good house is not merely attractive; it also’ works .”‘

This book is an especially important part of Thaler’s repertoire because it’s influenced the Conservative government in the U.K. and U.S. Democrats.

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness
Published 2008
Available on Amazon

2. Deal or No Deal?

Thaler and his co-authors show that Tv game show contestants construct so-called path-dependent choices in this paper: what happened earlier in the show influences how they behave as the program progress. In the game show, various sums of money have been allocated to 26 briefcases, and as the demonstrate progresses — as briefcases are opened, disclosing the sums within — she has the option to take a deal to walk away or continue to play, risking losing out in exchange for the chance at a bigger reward. They find that risk tolerance in later rounds varies widely among contestants, but it’s restriction among those who do poorly( eradicating high-value briefcases) or those who get lucky( opening low-value briefcases) early on in the game.” The relatively low risk revulsion of losers and winners is hard to explain with expected utility hypothesi and phases in the direction of reference-dependent option theories ,” the authors write.

Deal or No Deal? Decision Inducing Under Risk in a Large-Payoff Game Show
Published 2008
Available on Thaler’s website

3. Save More Tomorrow

Thaler proposed a prescriptive life savings program in this paper with the University of California at Los Angeles’ Shlomo Benartzi. The idea is that at least some low-saving employees with defined contribution plans are making a mistake and would be better off saving more, so if they committed in advance to allocating a portion of their own future salary increases toward retirement savings, they would wind up better off. Their experiment with the program at a midsize manufacturing company returned some encouraging results. About 78 percent of those offered the program joined, about 80 percent of those participants stuck with it through four pay raises, and that groups’ median savings rate climbed to 13.6 percentage from 3.5 percentage over 40 months.

This paper is important because it brings a real-world experiment to bear on one of Thaler’s big ideas:” libertarian paternalism.” The notion is that society should design institutions that help people to make better decisions, but without impinging their liberty to choose.

Save More Tomorrow: Utilizing Behavioral Economics to Increase Employee Saving
Published 2004
Available on Thaler’s Chicago Booth faculty webpage

4. The Loser’s Curse

Thaler and co-author Cade Massey investigated American football teams’ player draft decisions in this paper, concluding that top draft pickings are consistently overvalued.” Rather than a gem, the right to picking first looks just like a curse, ” the duo writes. Buying expensive players, even very good ones, results in opportunity costs lower on the roster — squads might have to pass on other players that would, together, result in better teams down the road. “The irony of our results is that the supposed benefit bestowed on the worst squad in the league, the human rights of pick first in the draft, is only a benefit if the team trades it away, ” they wrote in the 2010 version.

The Loser’s Curse: Overconfidence vs Market Efficiency in the NFL Draft
Published 2010( this version)
Available at Management Science website

5. Misbehaving

In his 2015 book, a memoir-cum-manifesto, Thaler clearly states the main points of his career-long argument: economics needs to take human behavior into account. People give into biases when making decisions, and that human miscalculation can come with serious consequences. Both economic forecasters and policy-setting governments need to take the fact that performers are human into account, he argues. “The primary reason for adding Human to economic hypothesis is to improve the accuracy of the predictions built with those hypothesis ,” he writes, quipping that behavioral economics comes with the added benefit of being more interesting and more fun.” It is the un-dismal science .”

Misbehaving: The Story of Behavioral Economics
Published 2015
Available on Amazon

The Truth About Why I Haven’t Determined For A’ Real’ Job Yet

I roll out of bed ataround 4:30 am even after a 1:00 am clock out at work a short 3.5 hours prior. My phone lies on my nightstand lighted up with Nordstrom Rackemails, Tinder messages, and an option to hit Sleep.

Next step is usually a trip-up to the bathroom to rinse the make up residue from my eyes I failed to getoff properly the night before. I head to the kitchen next, snap the lid on the Keurig for coffee and crack two eggs for my omelette.

My green Herschel backpack is stuffed to the top with food, clothes, and other random items Ill need for the next several hours .

I pull my plaid pajama shorts off and change into a pair of multi-color gym shorts and a Lululemon tank. The walking to the gym is a short 8 minutes where I begin my first chore of the day.

My status at 9am is as follows 😛 TAGEND Job# 1 Check . Workout Check . Dark circles beneath my eyes: Check. Check. Check .

After a rain, I hop onto the metro to Court House station in Arlington, VA where my freelance marketing gig is. Outside the office is a giant mural, overloaded with every color in the spectrum. Step into the office and youll find boxes, several desks, and a keg of Yuengling light.

Hunter *, what are Saturdays for? THE BOYS! He replies.

this is how my Tuesdays usually go.

My work uniform changes from gym clothes, to jeans paired with a cute shirt and then a transitionto a tight black tank usually wornwith dark-wash shorts and Converse-like nonslip shoes. A Flying Dog bottle opener usually hangs out of my back pocket as I head to my third job of the day.

Work views are brew taps and a dusty Absolut Oak bottle that is never utilized. Networking is chatting up bar guests with the occasional resume/ business card exchange .# Goals areum, I dont really know.

A 23 year old single bartender living in the nations capital: a demographic I presently fall into which I have come to find out is few and far between. Im not are participating in grad school, I didnt move here to be with a significant other, I dont have a defined career path. My day-to-day activities dont involve long commutes on the Metro, responding to emails in record-setting hours, or lunch breaks with co-workers at thefood truck outside of the office

My schedule is long and not the most glorious, but I dont allow myself to complain. Ok, perhaps the ocassionalIm tired AF stop talking to me, remark, but its a life I opted for myself.

I recently was offered a full hour 9-5 gig. Benefits, an entry level salary, a smart option. One that would have certainly removed me from the uncommon demographic I have stumbled upon. One that would turn my 16 hour days into 9, one that would give my loved ones a peace of mind that Im more financially and mentally stable.

I wanted to respond to the email with eagerness, but as my fingers began to type the response, I hit backspace.

Thank you so much for this opportunity. I would love to acc-

Delete.

I politely declined the offer.

Im trying really hard not to sound like the cliche millennial with a~ go with the flow~ position about my professional life because the truth is, I am very much looking forward to the day that I can afford to take weekends off. I cant wait to tell my mommy that I landed a job and be genuinely aroused about it. I cant wait to look back and say to myself 😛 TAGEND

But, I want to be excited about it. Maybe the next job I land wont be exactly what I want to do with the rest of my life, but why should I have to settle for something so farfetched from where I want to be to feel like I belong?

Its hard for some people to understand a lot of the choices I construct, and its even tougher to explain them. But, Ive found that its best not explain them at all.

Just because I dont know exactly where this path will take me, at least I know its going to take me somewhere.

People call me crazy for running 3 jobs. To be honest, I could probably get by with only bartending full period if I wanted to. However, Id rather be living a life that encompasses all of my interestswhile getting paid for it. And if that entails running my ass of day in and day out, thats ok.

The stereotypical DC question to ask. Sometimes people are just genuinely interested, but other days its to compare themselves.Its a question I get all of the time, usuallyas Im pouring a beer for them as they are in the midst of complaining about how miserable their task is. Its often an assumption that bartending is just for extra cash, and for a lot of people it is. But for me, its not. At least for now.

I dont go into detail about my long days, because I know they dont genuinely want to hear it. I used to feel like I had to explain myself and my situation often replying with 😛 TAGEND

Well Im just trying to figure out what I want to do so I run a few chores find what will fit best for me.

Who wants to get up at 4:30 am and finish the working day at 1am? Society would classify us as: crazy, unhappy, and overworked.

Crazy? Perhaps. Overworked? At hours, yeah. Unhappy? Who says?

It would be taboo for me to say, This life I have chosen for myself induces me genuinely happy. Even if its the truth.

I moved to a new cityto for one reason: to create a new life. One that may be messy, exhausting, and challenging at times, but I find happinessin the fact that I construct it on my own.I may have to excavation beneath the several thousand dollars of rent pays, Uber charges, and shitty boys to find it, but its still there.

I shouldnt have to explain why this life makes me happy, and neither should you.

Be good people and make healthy options. Know your worth, but know youll forgotten your worth at times too, and thats OK. Learn from it. Mothers, peers, and privileged strangers will tell you a steady careeris the key to happiness, which is fine, but dont let them define your the expected accomplishments and contentment if youre not in the same state of mind. Take each opportunity presented to you and run with it. Whether that opportunity involves asking customers how theyd like their burger cooked or traveling the world with Nat Geo( someday ), it doesnt matter. Every task, every shitty guy, every individual experience attains you more than who you were yesterday. And thats awesome.

My Tuesdays may be different from your Tuesdays, but its merely a Tuesday. And I like Tuesdays. I hope you do too .

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6 Struggles All People Born In The Late 80 s Can Relate To

Many of us are closer to our 30 s than our 20 s. Shocker.

If you’re already in your 30 s, congratulations.

Because apparently, you’re now( most likely) financially stable, secure with yourself and feel like you got this little thing called life in the bag.

Till then, hereare six thingsthose of us born in the late 80 s still struggle with 😛 TAGEND

1. Accomplishments

Bythis point in your life, you should have probably run a marathon, cooked a whole Thanksgiving meal by yourself and procured a cure for cancer while you saved a baby from a burning building.

But you know what?

It doesn’t have to be that extreme.

Being a good sister and friend, having a undertaking, inducing time for breakfast or even presenting up to places on time are all accomplishments as well. Don’t let society set so much pressure on you.

If you feel you’ve done something you can be proud of, keep at it.


2. Friends

You’re losing them, and it’s not stopping.

This isn’t necessarily because of a falling out or because you were seen in the same outfit together.

People are dedicating their time to their romantic relationships, moving to other cities, having babies and just living overall different lifestyles that don’t necessarily go in line with yours.

Just remember: People change and so do circumstances.

The friends that last are the ones worth keeping.

As for the ones you lose? Well hey, you’ve made some great memories.


3. Birthdays

When I was younger, I would always get so excited for them, even my half-birthdays( it’s a thing ).

But now, you realise get old isn’t fun. You start forgetting your card at the ATM, the cost ofyour health insurance goes up and you can’t digest the alcohol — let alone the food — you once could.

Then, your friends say to you something like, “I can’t get white-girl wasted with you on a Tuesday. I have to work tomorrow.”

Although you can’t celebrate like someone out of MTV’s “My Super Sweet 16 ”anymore , you can still make sure you’re surrounded by good company( aka people who hopefully know which storesto get you gift cards from ).


4. Body

Remember how you could go clubbing Thursday to Saturday night during your collegeyears, and a good ol’ Big N’ Tasty from McDonald’s was all you needed on a Sunday to prepare for Monday?

Yeah , not anymore.

You have two drinkings, stay up three hours later than your usual bed hour and wake up the next morning needing two bottles of aspirin and so much better water as the Pacific Ocean holds.

Youneedabout five days — maybe more — to recover from simply that one night.

They say the best cure for a hangover is being for the purposes of the age of 25, and it’s oh-so-true.

Don’t get me started on your metabolism going down the drain. You run from people saying, “I wish I could have your metabolism” to feeling like merely smelling a doughnut could induce yougain two pounds.

The inconvenient truth is, as we get older, we have to at the least try to be healthier.

Just try .


5. Shopping

Now, you actually have to set a budget because you can’t simply use your parents’ credit cards and leave the country for a few weeks once the charge card bill comes.

You have to pay your own bills, get your own damn food and make sure you still have enough for a roof over your head.

You want me to pay extra for guacamole? You want how much for this purse?

You start believing practically andasking yourself, “Do I need this? ”

You’re most likely always questioningif that shirt is appropriate for the workplace as well.

Shopping just isn’t as fun anymore.


6. Career

You have to dress for the job you want, wake up early, brush your hair and bring your -Agame, all day, every day.

Unfortunately, being a professional napper doesn’t exist — at least for now — so focus on what attains you feel good at the end of your day.

Remember: No task is forever. Just make sure to balance run and social life as much as possible to avoid burnouts.

You merely have to remember that as long as you can merrily identify with the person or persons you’re becoming, you’re on the right track.

That’san accomplishment on its own.

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