Why Everyone Should Run To Therapy

I don’t know you. I don’t know your narrative or your past.I don’t know the heart breaking or confusion or conflict in your life. I don’t know if you’re having relationships a matter that hurt and confuse and steal your elation. I don’t know if you’re struggling with your child and the role of parenthood has beaten you down. I don’t know the trauma or abuse or intestine wrenching rawness you’re going through.

I don’t know you. But I do know something about you.

I know your tale is worthy. I know you’re able to heal, to rise from the ashes and become the person or persons you were created to be. I know that with a little support, you’ll be back on your feet and the frightening cloud of inner distress will be lifted.

I’ve sat in the offices of five different therapists in my life time. I don’t seem the type to want a therapist. I don’t have any abuse in my past. I come from a happy home with loving mothers. I’ve sat across from many therapists, waiting for me to unleash my supposed repressed memories of a painful childhood- but I simply don’t have any.

But what I do have is this anxiety, this panic, this depression, that grips it’s long, jagged fingernails tightly into the walls of brain, making it hard to breathe or insure straight or feel normal. The medication built me sicker than my nervousnes did, so I went to therapy instead.

I’ve sat across from all types of therapists. Male, female, old, young, black, white, free, professional, cognitive behavior therapists, counselors, talkative, quiet…the list goes on. I’ve had good therapists…and I’ve had very bad therapists.

But I’m here to tell you something important. There is NO SHAME in discovering counseling, therapy, wisdom, subsistence. There is NO SHAME in telling someone you meet with a therapist or counselor. There is NO SHAME in attempting help. There is NO SHAME in realizing you need an unbiased third party.

In fact, it’s the bravest thing you can do. The ultimate sort of self-care. The champion of natural redress. Opening up to a stranger is frightening. But I’m telling you…it’s worth it. It is. You’ll find this version of yourself that you didn’t realize you had in you- one that is brave, and worthy of healing from feelings that gnaw at you.

Realize it is GOOD to talk about the wounds that haunt you.

An highly dear friend recently told him that ” All people could benefit from going to counseling. The smart people actually go .”

Be a smart person. Take the first step. You can do it. It’s worth it. I promise.

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61 People Confess What They Would Say To The Ex Who Was’ The One That Get Away’

Sometimes” The One That Got Away” is that famous Katy Perry song that unconsciously plays in the background when you come across a rather happy photo of your ex, but most of the time it’s just the ex that one person you could’ve and should’ve objective up with if it hadn’t been for a couple of bad decisions you both have stimulated, or some force-out beyond your control a.k.a. fate. Basically they’re the ones we regret, in one route or another.

More often than not they vanish from our lives too quickly and just leaves us with this huge dump of unsaid things and a shitload of emotions to deal with. Here are sixty and one souls different people, different cities, different faces with different narratives, different ages, some young, some too young and some, well , not so young. All have one thing in common. They all have something to say to their one that got away . If it matters, a couple of them have been together in the past and are talking about the other. Care to guess who used to be with who? While some of them requested for their names to be changed, some didn’t. And one of them might actually be talking about you…


1. ” Their own families misses you. Sometimes it feels like they’ve been with you longer than I have. I remember how my mama and my little brother literally screamed when I told them we’ve decided to end things. They kinda miss you quite terribly. I miss you quite terribly too .”

2. ” I wish I hadn’t pushed you away .”

3. ” You are, by far, the best and the worst decision I’ve induced .”

4. ” I’m sorry we had to let one another go. We weren’t exactly the best couple, we had so many misunderstandings, so many differences, and I think it’s the universe telling us that we’re not attained for each other. I’m sorry for all the pain I’ve cause you, and thank you for building me realise who I am, to become the person or persons I am now .”

5. ” Guess I should’ve swiped left ?”

6. ” After you left, I changed my best friend’s contact name to yours and asked her to text me good mornings and good nights every day. It went on for months. It was creepy hahaha but it helped me move on for some reason. I still miss you sometimes though .”

7. ” I’m really sorry for scratching your car and telling your mothers that I thought you were cheating. Turns out you weren’t….but I was. Just thought it takes one to know one. I’m really sorry .”

8. ” Well you weren’t wholly my TOTGA because we got back together after a couple of years but I was really stupid. I didn’t know what I was going to lose until you walked away from me. It was painful seeing you wrap your limbs around him and kiss him along the vestibules and everyday in class. And when prom came, I’ve never seen anyone look so good in a dress and it violated me that I wasn’t your first and last dance that night. You and him, young love, in the most innocence of the phrase. And even now that we’re together again, it still kills me inside knowing you could have spent those little moments with me if I wasn’t such a dick .”

9. ” I still miss you and I do think about you often but I definitely don’t want you back in my life. Au revoir , motherfucker !”

10. ” I always tell people that I never really liked or loved you. But truth is, I did and I still do. There’s just something about you that attains it hard to forget .”

11. ” No unhappiness. Thankful you’re the one I shared all my firsts with. Thank you for trusting me .”

12. ” I really thought you’d say yes .”

13. ” I’m getting married soon. My fiance doesn’t know about you and she doesn’t know that I still love you after all this years. But I hope you don’t come back anymore because I don’t want to end up leaving her .”

14. ” I don’t really know. Sucks to think that all the years we’ve expended together are now only memories long gone. Was he worth it? Was he worth this? I sure damn hope he is. I wish you two all the happiness I can’t have .”

15. ” It hurt when your friends had no idea I exist in your life. When we’re around other people it’s as if I’m nothing to you. You change the way you act and I don’t know, I only wish I was the prettier type or the kind of daughter you can flaunt when you’re at parties and when you hang out with your buds. Cause I was never that kind of girl you know? I wish I wasn’t so embarrassing for you. I wish I was something you could be proud of .”

16. ” I wish you weren’t 23 and wedded and I wish you had use a condom when you fucked my best friend years ago. Fuck you cause I still love you .”

17. ” I would’ve said’ I do’ if you ever asked .”

18. ” I wish your parents weren’t so homophobic .”

19. ” I don’t have a real life TOTGA thankfully, but okay, I wish you weren’t a fictional book character and I actually wish you didn’t succumb. Also, fuck you Jojo Moyes and Suzanne Collins .”

20. ” Why are you still so nice to me? I wasn’t ready, I left, I lied, I cheated, I fooled around when you gave me all your attention. So, why? It would’ve been easier to move on if you just became cold to me. I deserved it anyways .”

21. ” I regret deleting your messages .”

22. ” You were a terrible, horrible, really bad kisser but I severely remember you in every person I kiss and sleep with. I always secretly wish and imagined it was still you who I’d sleep with and wake up to the next day .”

23. ” It took me a while to make up my intellect. It was March 18, 2014 when I flew to surprise you with flowers, a script of apologies and a poem in my head. You always loved my poems..but wow I was a week and two days late. You were already with someone then. I still mean that proportion where I said ” I’d give up all my tomorrows if it meant reliving every single yesterday I spent with you .” 2016 and it still haunts me how you said you would have said yes if I arrived at your doorstep a week and three days earlier .”

24. ” I really hope we bump into each other at the coffee shop which is something we first fulfilled. Just so I could gladly spill coffee all over you again. Fucking. Boiling. Coffee .”

25. ” I hope you gratify some other dude who will sweep you off your feet before I become stupid and selfish enough to ask you to come back and stay with me again. Please, please, merely fall in love with someone else who isn’t me. I don’t deserve you .”

26. ” One of the worst things you can ever do to someone is cheat on them. I entail, it actually sucks. I admit I’ve long forgiven you but I carry your mistake even when we’re no longer together. I’m with someone else now and every time I find myself seduced to cheat, I merely remind myself of how bad it hurt me when you did. So thank you .”

27. ” When you left, I literally forgot who I was before we were together .”

28. ” The last time I called you wasn’t an accident. My brother pressing your contact or him wanting to talk to you was all some petty lie only to talk to you and hear your voice. I’m sorry I’m not the best at burning bridges. Guess you merely meant more to me than I did to you .”

29. ” I don’t hate you anymore, but I still can’t forgive everything you’ve done to me. Sorry .”

30. ” I’m still hoping that one day you’d call and please tell me you made a mistake and that you still love me .”

31. ” Can we literally and figuratively sleep with one another one last period ?”

32. ” I still can’t believe how anyone could just fling all those years and memories away and make it seem so easy .”

33. ” I truly miss how you’d let me play with your hair a lot and how it almost always smells like cinnamon. Weird .”

34. ” I knew you were cheating the entire period. And no, I don’t hate you. Not one bit .”

35. ” I’ve been thinking about it since the day you left me and I don’t know, it’s been what, 2 years? I wish I knew or at the least I wish you told me what I did wrong or where it all went wrong. It’s hard playing intellect games with myself and thinking it was all my fault .”

36. ” I wish you never told me you loved when you knew in your heart that it was still her .”

37. ” I’m sorry I never had the gallantry to tell you I was really into you .”

38. ” I wish I fulfilled you “when hes” older and more err, I don’t know, mature, determined and chosen? We were too young and innocent and we rushed things .”

39. ” I wish you told me early on that you dislike being attached and that you were incapable of commit and loving anyone .”

40. ” I’m sorry I couldn’t be the person you’ve always wanted me to be. Sorry .”

41. ” I have nothing against gays but fuck you, merely fuck you for trying to win my friendship and affection just so you could get close to my brother .”

42. ” I bought us floor tickets to Ed Sheeran’s concert but we never got to watch cause you broke up with me. It was almost a year’s worth of allowance but oh well, glad I watched it with my little sister instead. We both tell konnichiwa. P.S. Saw that the guy you dated a week after we broke up bought you Lower Box tickets to Ed, cool cool .”

43. ” When I started working here in Hong Kong I see your face almost everywhere. A plenty of daughters look like you. A lot .”

44. ” I wish you were easier to forget than remember .”

45. ” I hope you’ll be a million times happier than you were with me. I just really want you to be happy .”

46. ” I still love you even though you’re trying to convince everyone that you are now straighter than ever. Best of luck, dude, bro, man .”

47. ” I actually believed I could find someone better. This has got to be the biggest mistake I’ll have to live with for the rest of my life .”

48. ” As much as I disliked you for leaving me, I’m thankful that you did because I never would’ve been able to. And if I didn’t? I wouldn’t have met her .”

49. ” I simply don’t want to say anything to her anymore .”

50. ” Always remember to wake up at 7 am daily, to eat and never skip snacks, to drink about 8 glasses of water a day and to sleep a full 8 hours, alright? I won’t be there to remind and take care of you everyday anymore .”

51. ” I wish we didn’t start as friends with benefits .”

52. ” I’m sorry for falling out of love with you when you never did anything wrong. I wish I knew how to reverse it when it was happening. I was so scared I didn’t know what to do and I feel so guilty until today .”

53. ” We had 2 chances, love. We used to believe that we were destined for one another. But I guess this isn’t what the world wants for us. While the two of us were being happy, many people were also getting hurt. Thank you for dedicating us up for their happiness instead of ours. Thank you for minding their business instead of ours. Thank you for leaving me simply because I can’t leave you, again. Do I love you? Yes. Can I still trust you? No. Hope you grow a dick to fight for what you want next time. Fuck you for leaving me empty .”

54. ” I can’t stand the thought of someone else being with you and knowing you the style I do, and so much more. I can’t stand the thought of someone else holding your hands, tracing your back up and down like mine did. I can’t stand the thought of you loving someone else. I simply can’t .”

55. ” I know you faked all your orgasms. For the record, I did too.”

56. ” You were once my home. I hope I was yours too .”

57. ” The last thing you told me was ” I love you, trust me I truly do. I just require time to find myself. Please forgive me .” I was holding on to the possibility of you coming back but now I hope you just take it back and tell me you no longer love me. Please help me forget you cause I actually want to. Please .”

58. ” I should’ve told you what you “ve been meaning to” me .”

59. ” Did you ever actually love me ?”

60. ” If you ever come back this instant, or 4 minutes from now, 3 months, two years later, I’d leave everything and everyone behind and just run away with you if you wanted me to. I won’t ever let you get away from me ever again. And oh, I still really love you .”

61. ” I love you. Thank you for coming back .”

So, if you had one chance, what would say to the one that got away?

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25 Beautifully Banal Ways True Love Manifests Day-To-Day

1. Love is using each others razors or deodorant because it induces “youre feeling” closer in some weird style you can’t quite explain.

2. It’s also laughing over how bad your farts stink, and sometimes arguing feverishly over whose farts stink more.

3. It’s calling your significant other out for being an asshole, or letting them slide for their asshole behavior because they had a no-good, horrible, very bad day and they need a permission slip-up to be a dick temporarily.

4. Its negotiating constantly over ridiculous matters, and attaining silly bargains. For instance,” Ill consent to those questionable hurl pillows you agree to those kitchen towels I like .”

5. Its debating which TV indicate you should watch together next, and claiming the human rights of opinion certain programs alone so you can’t be accused of TV-cheating later.

6. Its giving your significant other a two-minute back rub before falling asleep even if youre depleted simply because they ask you to( and you know they’re good for the massage credit ).

7. Its establishing life-enhancing household rules like No Telephones At The Dinner Table Ever. And punishing each other appropriately on the occasions either of you contravenes an agreed upon stipulation.

8. Its looking into each others eyes whenever possible, recognizing also that eye contact is generally more powerful than anything that comes out of either of your mouths.

9. Its spending ten minutes neither of you has lazing about in bed some mornings after the alarm rings before you pick up your phones and dive into the day ahead.

10. Its telling your significant other that they appear sexy before they even ask for your opinion on the days you sense they could use the ego boost.

11. Its recollecting when your boyfriend or girlfriend has an important meeting and offering a canned but meaningful good luck as they head out the door.

12. Then remembering to text them an appropriately uplifting, emoji-ridden message right before that meeting occurs.

13. And preparing to support them no matter the outcome of that big important session because you’ve committed to being there whatever the fuck happens.

14. Its preemptively doing tiny little things to attain one another happy, like putting the laundry in the dryer even if you didnt start the wash, or tidying up the closet even if you didnt generate that hideous mess.

15. Its doing the dishes when its not your turning because you can sense that your partner might benefit from heading directly to the couch right after dinner.

16. Its saying thank you for every little thing your partner does for you. And sometimes, saying it for no apparent reason, without prompting, because you genuinely feel grateful for the life you’ve built together.

17. Its sighing slash smiling over the fact that your partner failed, yet again, to put the toothpaste or the salt or the remote control back in its designated place after utilizing itnot because they didn’t think to do so, but because they know exactly how to push your buttons.

18. It’s letting your boyfriend or girlfriend utilize you as an excuse to get out of something they don’t want to do.” Sorry, can’t make it to dinner.[ Insert s/ o’s name] is sick with the flu. Again .”

19. It’s entertaining your partner’s friends when they pop by unexpectedly, even when hosting is the last thing in the world you feel like doing.

20. It’s taking a genuine interest in each other’s hobbiesreading up about motorcycles or stamp collecting or football or whatever else tickles your significant otherjust so you can ask each other questions that demonstrate you care enough to research shit you don’t really care about.

21. It’s attaining up words so you can speak in your very own couple’s code.

22. Its encouraging one another to attain smart eating choices and to exert regularly because teamwork constructs maintaining healthy habits so much simpler.

23. It’s also attaining bad choices togetherlike gong for ice cream on a full belly or finishing a second or third bottle of wine on a weeknightfor the hell of it because indulging as a twosome is doubly satisfying.

24. Its saying I love you at apparently random moments, and then casually returning to whatever else you were just doing.

25. Its reminding each other that youre luck to be togetherand that you can’t imagine life without the option to collapse into each other’s limbs whenever.

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How To Get Over Someone You Merely Sort Of Dated

So you dated someone and thought he was the one! Awarded, you thought the delivery guy who accidentally grazed your limb as he handed you the pizza was also the one, but thats beside the point.

If youre anything like mesomeone who obsesses over a hot barista just because they spell your name right several months in a rowyoure likely currently struggling to get over person you dated, even if you two were only official in your head.

Below are some tips-off on how to get over person , no matter how long you actually dated or how serious the relationship was.

STEP 1: CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION

After a breakup there is always one person who suggests remaining friends. But you cant move on if the past is persisting nearby.

Delete his number if necessary, unfollow him on all social media platforms if it hurts too much to see him in your feeds, and block his number if you think youll end up texting him after 19 tequila shots at happy hour.

And dont run generating fake accounts and still stalk him after I merely “ve told you” not to! Its bad for your health. Im serious Barbara!

STEP 2: Yell, LIKE, A LOT

Youre like Huh? Do you even know what youre talking about?

I mean, likely not.

But I believe that you need to cry. You need to connect with your feelings. Cry about why it didnt work up, yell about how much you wish it had, scream because right now feels like the end of the world because youre mourning the death of a relationship.

F* ck it.

Have a breakdown at the DMV! Cry at Starbucks when they spell your name wrong. Cry at a random wedding that you werent even invited to. Scream it out at all the most inappropriate moments because this is your time to let it all out.

Give yourself permission to feel and to scream until youve got nothing left to cry about.

Take all the time you need and do not mask your feelings since that they are able to just prolong the process of getting over this 2-day or 2-year relationshit.

STEP 3: GET A HOBBY

The best style to distract yourself is to get busy and get a hobby.

No, stalking all of his social media platforms is NOT a pastime( Seriously Barbra, chill the f* ck out ). I dont know why we look at things we know will hurt us. Maybe some of us are just addicted to the ache and its all we know but wouldnt it be nice to feel something other than emotional pain for once? I think so!

Is eating a pastime ?? Wow, you really dont know how boring you are until you realize that your only two hobbies are feeing and staring at your cat.

All gags aside try and become obsessed over something new instead of your ex whether its a better diet, working out, masturbating, volunteering, your career or a new dick with a side of dick. The options are endless!

For me, writing my impressions down genuinely helped move on along with wine and my cat. Also masturbating and Netflix and chocolate, lots of chocolate.

Ok, Ill stop.

STEP 4: DONT REACT TO ANYTHING

This is something I am really bad atbut hey, learn from my mistakes.

So you run into him at a bar and although he has smells like he hasnt showered in weeks and hes starting to go bald and you could literally floss your teeth with everything that body hair, to you he is the same do-no-wrong angel you fell in love with.

Whatever the reason hes abruptly on your intellect, DO NOT REACT. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing that you care. You will only invite more sorrow by engaging him in any context because then you will have to start the mourning process ALL OVER AGAIN. And trust me, this time WILL NOT BE DIFFERENT. You are over for a reason, you do not need 734 more tries and 1065 embarrassing texts to figure that out!

Do not give into the alcohol or that voice in your vagina telling you that you need him. You DO NOT need him! What you need is some ice cream, a vibrator, and Netflix.

STEP 5: GET YOUR ASS OUT OF THE HOUSE

My first instinct after a breakup is to stay home and feel sorry for myself. Unfortunately, that results me to sit for hours investigating the relationship and then cry out for hours then binge feed then yell again then stalk my ex on social media which follows by more tears till I fall asleep with food in my hair.

What you need to do is put something sexy on and force yourself to go out. If clubbing isnt your thing then only have a girls night in and bond with your friends. One big mistake girls build is drop their friends when they get a boyfriend, dont be that girl. You will regret it.

Being around friends will distract you and help you remember to smile and laugh. You Require your girlfriends, and you need to remember what its like to giggle and be happy.

If you need to giggle but your friends are assholes, theres always @daddyissues_ on Instagram!

STEP 6: FIND YOURSELF A REBOUND

To be honest, Ive tried to rebound with another guy before I was ready and objective up getting attached to the rebound dude and then weeping over two guys simultaneously, which was super exhausting and terrible for my mental health.

But when I got my cat Pancakes after a breakup, it ran. Pancakes was my rebound! I focused on my cat, my work, my friends, and myself instead of rebounding with another dude.

But if youre more into get your pickle tickled then join a dating site like christianmingle.com or glutenfreelovers.com and go out there and get yourself a rebound guy! Let this dude show you what a real orgasm is like while he bangs all those pesky impressions youre harboring for your ex right out of your vagina.

But dont get attached because then youll just “re going to have to” re-read this whole blog again.

STEP 7: FORGIVE YOUR EX

I know this sounds silly, but its true: As long as you hold a grudge towards your ex, you wont be able to move on. Half of the time its our ego that isnt letting us move on. Disliking someone takes a lot more energy than you think. It means that you still have strong feelings for this person and that he still has a hold on you.

Now, to be clear, I am not telling you to contact your ex and let him know that youve forgiven him! Please dont do that because youre just going to end up having sexuality with him and then youre going to be like, so what are we? And hes going to be like, my new girlfriend is about to come home, pat you on the head, thank you for the sex, and send you on your style to Starbucks to break down again.

What I am suggesting is that you forgive him in your head. Realise that the damage has been done and there is nothing anyone can do to mend it. You have to accept the pain hes caused you and let it go in order to move on.

Working through your impressions towards this person will help you rebuild your identity as someone who can thrive without that guy.

STEP 8: TRUST THAT TIME HEALS

Honestly, this step is probably the hardest since period slows down when youre heartbroken. I know its clich, but it really is true: Time heals everything!( except herpes ).

When I was going through my first breakup, I screamed myself to sleep for weeks and every night before bed I would persuade myself that I was over him until the working day I woke up and I really was over him. I stopped screaming and started thinking about him less and less until the working day I actually felt nothing when I find a picture of him.

STEP 9: LOVE YOURSELF

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP.

Heartbreak can really crush your self-esteem and while were dealing with the damage of a breakup we sometimes forget to focus on ourselves.

I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and see how beautiful you are. I want you to remember how great you arethat you dont need anyone else to complete you because you complete yourself.

I want you to become everything youve ever wanted to be while you move on from a relationship that wasnt right for you. I want you to stop being negative and blaming yourself for why it didnt work out. It was not your faulting, you are perfect merely the route you are. There was nothing you could have done better, get that thought out of your head.

Once you start focusing on loving yourself, you will begin to attract good energy and the right people will enter your life. When you least expect it, you will find a new love, a better love. But hopefully you will first find it with yourself.

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50 Little Reminder That Will Get You Through Any Tough Day

1. Weve all had them and you are not alone .

2 . Tomorrow is a fresh start where today can be washed away.

3 . We have all gone through loss, but the best stories are when you grow stronger from that loss.

4 . You are still alive and breathing.

5 . Youre worthy of greatness even if you dont see it yet.

6 . What you are feeling today does not define you.

7 . Time truly heals most anything.

8 . Count your boons , not your calories.

9. You are allowed to not going to be okay .

10 . Your nervousnes or depression is nothing to be ashamed of.

11 . Person in this world cares deeply about you.

12 . Asking for help does not stimulate you weak.

13 . Forty-years from now, you wont am worried about eating more than one piece of cake.

14 . Comparing yourself to others, will do nothing but injury your mind.

15 . Everyone is overly conscious of themselves and probably will never notice your blemishes.

16 . Dont keep your negative impressions concealed. Talk to someone.

17 . Every day is a gift to do something new .

18 . Even if today sucked, tomorrow could be the best day of your life.

19 . We think too much and feel too little. Charlie Chaplin

20 . Smiling can create your endorphins, so go on and give it a go.

21 . So can cuddling.

22 . We live in a world where chocolate exists.

23. Today is not forever .

24 . Taylor Swift had to get over Joe Jonas, Harry Styles, and Jake Gyllenhaal. If she did it, you can do it too.

25 . Being sad for no reason does not mean youre crazy. Youre simply human.

26 . Its not international crimes to take a day off from real life and take care of yourself.

27 . If you are living, you are still surviving and becoming stronger.

28. The past can hurt, but the route I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it The Lion King

29 . You will love again, I promise.

30 . The most beautiful things you can get from life are free.

31 . Yes, you can buy edible cookie dough and not get sick from it.

32 . You dont have to be so brave all the time.

33 . Your real friends will not think your sadness is a burden. Devote them a call.

34 . Sometimes all you need is a very good hug.

35. The worst days wont be as memorable as the best days that are yet to come .

36 . Being happy all the time, won’t give you good experience and won’t teach you anything about yourself.

37 . When a bloom doesnt bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows , not the flower. Alexander Den Heijer

38 . If you have a roof over your head, thats already one thing to be grateful about.

39 . Its ok to not love yourself 100% right now, but take everyday to let yourself know youre doing your best.

40 . If there is a negative person in their own lives that attains “youre feeling” horrible, cut them out of your life and watch it get better.

41 . Even Beyonce has terrible days.

42 . Dont let your demons from the past ruining your future.

43 . Merely in darkness are you able see the stars. Martin Luther King Jr.

44. Allowing yourself to cry and to feeling, is allowing yourself to mend .

45 . Taking baby steps is better than not taking any at all.

46 . You are more important than you even know.

47 . Your life is precious and beautiful. Dont take that for granted.

48 . Pain is merely a fleeting moment. Its not your whole life.

49 . Listen to what your body is telling you and follow its advice.

50. You are here because you are a miracle. Dont let one day ruin it all for your future ego .

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Trust In The Timing Of Your Life

Life is chaotic sometimes. Just as you think everything is going swimmingly, something happens that sends you out of whack. It stimulates you a little bit adrift and this unsettling feeling is hard to shake. Whether its losing your job, your SO, or even if your favorite coffee shop closes down( yes, this would suck for me ), its important to take a step back, exhale and surrender.

I always get into a funk when my life goes off balance. Sometimes I feel like Ive taken one step forwards and two steps back. Thats when I stop and realise,

It’s okay.

Its okay to feel behind, its okay not to be okay, but at the same hour its important to pick yourself up. I give myself 10 emotional minutes in a day if I need it, then I get up and remind myself that I am a gangster( with a matcha latte and a yoga mat ).

Accept.

We want to control everything around us, the situations and the person or persons, but youve got to remember that you cant control every aspect of your life. Dont waste your energy into things you cant control. Instead, utilize that energy to get yourself closer to those goals and being the best version of yourself.

Trust.

Trust in life and trust in yourself. Trust that where you are at in your life at the moment is the right thing and the thing this is necessary most. Dont compare your life to others, everyone is on an individual journey and is on a completely different route and scrolling through your feed upon social media isnt going to stimulate you feel better if you think everyone is ahead of you. Life isnt a race so slow down.

Learn.

Learn from the struggles, falls, heartache, heartbreak, loss, and endings. Because when something ends, a new thing begins. Learn from the people who have come into your life and left, learn from the people who are still here, learn from your experiences good and bad, and most of all learn from yourself.

Celebrate.

We all have objectives that we one day trying to achieve, but in the meantime celebrate your small wins and keep yourself motivated. Focusing on only the big goal can be daunting at times when you think youre not getting closer to it, so look at each step as a tick in the box, getting you that much closer to your goals and go and have that glass of wine and celebrate( any excuse for a tipple ).

Be grateful.

Be grateful for everything in your life. Acknowledge the good no matter how small. You woke up this morning and have another chance at life, you have great friends and family, you have a roof over your head whatever it is, be grateful.

Remember, life is amazing, then awful. And then its amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the nasty, and relax and exhale during the course of its ordinary. Thats just living, heart-breaking, soul-healing, astounding, nasty, ordinary life and its breathtakingly beautiful.

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13 Newlyweds On Exactly How They Plan To Beat The Odds And Stay Faithful Forever

1. On a whim the other night, my wife started reading this sexy book out loud to me andI was rapt. That led to some really fun experimenting. Entirely new sexual territory for us. I only keep reminding myself that theres much better for us to do together. If you’re open-minded and committed to keeping the passion alive, there’s really nothing to worry about.

2. I started giving my husband sexual coupons( e.g. One start to finish blowie, redeemable with 48 hours notice) for special occasions a year or so into our relationship. Hes always loved them, and I think they give us both a healthy sense of security. He likes having a hoard of sex favors he can cash in, and I’m convincedthecoupons keep his dirty believes centered on me. When it comes to marital loyalty, coupons might just bethe best kept secret.

3. ” People always assume its the man whos more likely to cheat, but Im way more sex than my husband is. Fortunately, Im also an accomplishedmasturbator. As long as I’ve got ateam of vibrators at my bedside, I won’t be seduced to dabble outside our marriage .”

4. I fought with porn craving a few years back, when my wife was still my girlfriend. When I came clean, it was a big jolt toherself-esteem. But onceshe accepted that I had a problem, she came through with a genius plan.Instead of the typical date night, westay homeand induce our own sexy videos. It maintains us connectednot just sexually but emotionallyand I am one hundred percent certain were gonna make it long-term without any affairs getting in the way thanks to DIY porn.

5. There was a moment when I came close to making out with my colleague a few weeks after my husband and I tied the knot, but I pulled back in time. I’m not naive enough to think that we won’t be tempted sometimes, but I feel like Im programmed not to go there because I genuinely do love my husband that much. And I know in my heart that he feels just as strongly.

6. My wifes horny af. I wouldnt have marriage her otherwise because Im a guy who needs to get laid at the least once a day. But so does she! Were a perfect match. Seriously, were the happiest couple I know.

7. Right after the wedding, my husband and I experienced the early onset of the Seven Year Itch syndrome. Neither of us was all that interested in intimacyat least not with one another. But Im a type-Aladyand I refused to give up on us. I did a lot of research and we tried a bunch of things until we found somethingthatworks for us: A sex schedule. It might voice completely unsexy to schedule sex, but its not. My spouse LOVES the guarantee of sex, and we both have fun sending one another dirty calendar invites. Its such a simple measure, truly, so Im confident well always be able to rekindle the flamewhenever we need to.

8. My wife and I wedded later than most of our friends, and all of them were always telling us that wedding would kill our sex life. So whenwe gotengaged, we decided to beproactive about developing a really honest sexual dialogue. We started checking in with one another at least once a week merely to make sure were both okayin all areas, including sexuality. You cant assume someones happy. You have to ask them, and also be receptive to feedback if you want things to last.

9. My husband threw his back out jet skiing on our honeymoon andhe was bedridden for days. One morning he prayed me for a handy sincehe wasnt truly able to have sex. I rejected because I thoughta handjobwould be bad for his back if he was writhing his pelvis and hips. Hegot mad, and started screaming about how he’d “re going to have to” order amassage and a happy ending if I didn’t help him. I said, Fine! But if start taking liberties, will too. Then we both cracked up because we knew “were in” both full of shit. Theres balance between useven when we battle, you know? And we have this shared sense of humor we can count on tobring us back to solid ground.

10. Marriage is hard work and part of that work is keeping your partner sexually satisfied. Im fortunateto be married to a woman who reallyunderstands thatgive-and-take. Sometimes were both really into making love, but sometimes one of us is clearly doing the other a favor in get naked and thats okay. We live bya kind of unspoken pact that maintains us bothcontent.

11. Weve only been married for six months, and let me say to you: After the wedding, theres a definite drop off in the excitement level. The chaos ends and its easy to freak out. What Ive realise is that its important to shape your own position every single day. You can stress out thinking, oh my God, Im stuck with one girl for the rest of my life, or you can take comfort in a gues like, I am one luck human to get to come home to an amazing female every single night. Positive thinking, human. That’s how I do it.

12. Im not shy. Ill tap into my inner animal and get freaky in the sack and my husband knows he cant get that from other women, inevitably. He dated a bunch of women who were sex dud before we got together. If you want to make sure your partner doesnt cheat, just be the best sexuality they can have.

13. Ill tell you what my buddy were talking about staying faithful for a lifetime: One day at a time. Its the only style forward.

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30 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Construct Your Life Better Tomorrow

Everyone feels low at some phase, and it is feasible to seducing to wallow in those sad feelings. Sometimes we just cant assist putting ourselves down. However, that can build the impressions worse, and it can induce problems seem bigger than they actually are.

Thankfully, you can easily turn those negative impressions around by doing a few simple things. Although it may be difficult to think about doing something positive, you have the power to do so. Your intellect is a powerful tool, and you rule your intellect- it isnt the other way around.

Dont beat yourself up; here are 30 ways to feel better about yourself today.

1. Apologize to anyone who you think you have hurt.

2. Stop the negative talk in your head or at least acknowledge that it is your insecurities talking and not you.

3. Go play with your pet, or watch a funny animal video on Youtube. A penguin falling over will attain you feel better, even if its only for a second.

4. Change one thing about your life that you dont like.

5. Relive one of your favorite memories. Think about how happy and relaxed you felt, and remember that you will believes this way again if you want to.

6. Dont carry the weight of the world on your shoulders; let someone else help you with a tough decision.

7. Find something you can give to a friend, like a CD or DVD that you know theyd like.

8. Treat yourself to something that you love. Whether it is a new dress, a new game or an avocado, if you love it, it will construct you happy.

9. Call your best friend and tell them that you are feeling down. Talk about it for a while if you want but then ask your friend to tell a funny gag or story to put a smile on your face.

10. Go to your local park and spend some time on the swings.

11. If you feel really low, weep it out. Put on a sad anthem and truly let yourself go you are able to feel better afterwards.

12. Reflect on some of the awesome things youve achieved in your lifetime.

13. Do 50 jumping jacks.

14. Look in a mirror( or your phone camera) and smile at yourself for a few seconds. Breathe in and out, and take a few seconds to look at your favorite facial feature.

15. Forgive yourself. For everything. Every single person on the earth induces mistakes.

16. Adjust your expectations.

17. Buy blooms for someone you love. They will be so happy especially since there was no reason for it besides genuine love.

18. Cook your favorite dessert.

19. Put yourself first.

20. Put your friends and family at a close second.

21. Start a new pastime that youve always liked the idea of, such as playing the guitar or painting.

22. Do something nice for a stranger, such as devoting them your bus pass.

23. Find a mentor who you look up to.

24. Be a mentor to persons who looks up to you.

25. Clean your room/ home/ desk. If youre looking at something that is untidy, it wont improve your mood it will simply build you feel worse. A clean space will assist you in clear your mind.

26. Throw your head back and stroll like youre on the catwalk. Youll feel pretty damn fabulous after half an hour!

27. Cook a meal youve never attained before you will be able to find a recipe online!

28. Praise someone in your family.

29. Call your parents for a catch up.

30. Accept your negative emotions. Everyone feels insecure and jealous sometimes, and these feelings will never go away but they dont have to rule you, and they shouldnt.

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To The Guy Who I Loved And Ultimately Lost

To the guy I loved and lost ,

Sometime ago I had a dreaming that I was in the prettiest white dress, and I wasjust about to walk down the aisle. As I approached the alter I assured the mostravishingly dressed-up guy; you. I was undoubtedly the happiest person in the worldas I looked into your bright and enchanting eyes. From your warm embrace, Icouldve reeked you as I leaned in closer. Your touch was so comforting, until I woke up and I realized I was alone.

Without your presence in my life, I live one alone, which is an excruciating and profound reminder that you are no longer a part ofme. We no longer speak to each other like we used to, but its already dawn. Its theday that I should start my life anew and I cant even rest at ease.

Within a few hours, I will arise from bedand do my morning routine. Ill shower and get dressed for my new task withcomplete awareness that you wont be there in the evening for me to tell you howmy day passed.

Subsequently, Ill likely be all alone feeing KFC while facingthe wrath of reality that the only person I want to talk to at the end of my day is theonly person I cant speak to.

I am basically a bomb might wish to explosion since it all happened. An entity of self-loath and loneliness was something I didnt think I was capable of being. That wasuntil I detected myself alone, staring at the four bedroom walls surrounding me andsobbing so uncontrollably, that I couldnt catch my breath . The night we broke up, Iinstantaneously packed up the stuff that you gave to me. I neatly folded your t-shirtthat I claimed from your DC comic collection. After which I cleared my room ofeverything that jogged my memory of your existence in my world. As a result, my room is also now beset with different things that remind me that, even though youre no longer present in my life; youd never be too remote frommy thinks. I can confess that there will be days that Id take that batman t-shirtand wear it as I pretend to be okay again . Ive started the procedure provided for in standardizing my life devoid of you in the working day ofyour absence. Gawkily filling the gaps that you once occupied with my black andwhite describes, old associates, all genres of movies and more ice cream than weboth can eat.

Despite all of my efforts to accept the situation and move forward, I constantly contemplate that with enough time, your decision will change. I hope that you want me in your life and there will be an us again. I anticipatethat youstill love me.

I keep thinking that youll change your intellect once again and insure meas the woman who will be standing next to you on the day of your wedding.

Wewould be the couple chilling on the sofa after we put the kids to bed. I imagine thatyou will reconsider your decision and return to me.However, I dont just want you to change your intellect. I want you to make up yourmind . I want you to make up your mind that it is you want, and show me that Iwasnt wrong to love you so unconditionally. I wanted to believe you when yousaid that you wanted to expend the rest of your life with me. I want you to make upyour mind that while there are lots of stunning women in the world, whod be betterin bed, that I am the only one you truly love. I want you to make up your mind thatIm the person that attains you the happiest and also give your life a new definition.

Unfortunately due to the circumstances, Im unaware of when or if this would everbe a reality, and thats the most difficult facet of this situation. There is thepossibility that the love of their own lives may simply not be me. Either style, I started my new occupation and Im still scared and nervousnervous asever. Youre the only person that can soothe me and tomorrow Ill be leaving homewithout your encouraging words that everything will be okay. You wont be ableto hear about it at night. Ill get through each day one step at a time while alsotrying to assure everyone that I am fine.

I am fine with the knowledge that youresomewhere else, doing something else and maybe with someone else. Ill expelyou from my mind and simply carry on. Until the working day I pass by the ice creamparlor and recollect your favorite flavor or even see your favourite color.Until the instant where my phone vibrates, until that creed or Shania twain songplays. Until I have to go to sleep. And until I have to fall apart and have to start all overagain. Without you .

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17 Ways Lazy Girls Fake Having Their Shit Together

I’m one of those lazy girls that constantly floats between wearing glasses and sweatpants, to the whole nine yards with murderer heels and a little black dress. But, the majority of cases( all the time ), I’d rather not really try.I have come to find that , none of us really have to try so hard to seem like weknow what we’re doing. It’s easier than it seems.

1 . Throw your hair up in a messy bun . No matter your hair texture, or how badly the ends of your strands seem, you can always set it up and spray with a bit of hairspray to make sure it lasts all day.

2 . Sunglasses . They hide tired eyes, puffy eyes, hangovers, and blemishes. They are truly the best accessory. You don’t even require make-up.

3 . Starbucks . I don’t care if you despise it, but carrying around a Starbucks cupin your hand induces you lookSOdarn fancy.

4 . Wine . Display wine bottles all over your place. Collect the corks to display on your coffee table. Basically, wine will always be the answer. No matter what.

5 . LaCroix Water . I likely will never be able to pronounce it, but when you pull one out of your purse, you will look fancy as f* ck.

6 . Throw on a dress . Candidly, why even bother putting on pants anymore?

7 . Always order the biggest plate of pasta you can . Literally, everyone else with their pathetic salads are going to stare at you with jealousy. #winning. #alwayssayyestopasta.

8 . Save old selfies . Whenever “youre feeling” on’ fleek ‘, take a scene. On the days when you are lying in bed with nothing to do, post one of those old but HOT pictures of yourself. Likes guaranteed.

9 . Google pictures of the gym . Then, post some believable ones on your snapchat. Keep’ murdering’ in bed.

10 . If you must go out, don’t forgotten your’ medicine ‘. Now, when you want to leave early to a collect, depict your friends your’ antibiotics’ that the doctor prescribed for you. You are free to goes, and in the clear.

11 . Fairy lightings . So, you don’t feel like vacuuming or cleaning your apartment up at all? Not a problem. Buy some cute suns, hang them up, and your friends won’t even notice the disaster that is right in from of them.

12 . Adult coloring books . Some may say you’re lazy for not going out on a Friday night, Isay you are relaxing your intellect with some good old fashioned fun( and alcohol ).

13 . Build up your bed . No matter how messy and disgusting your bedroom is, attaining up your bed will always make you look like you are on top of things.

14 . Always have gum on hand . Sometimes, you forget to brush your teeth while you were in a rush to get work. What does the job? Gum. Sometimes, you have a really bad hangover and brushing your teeth isn’t cutting it. What does the job? Gum.

15 . Dry shampoo . We all don’t have time to wash our hair every single day. Meet dry shampoo: your new best friend. It get rid of excess oil and constructs it look like you actually tried( for once ).

16 . Fake plants . I don’t know what it is about plants, but they are really hard to take care of( or it’s just me ). Solution? Fake flowers, fake hydrangeas, and fakesucculents will construct you seem like the queen of having your shit together.

17 . When all else fails, stop devoting a crap . Pay no intellect to the persons who to continue efforts to put you down. Espouse your laziness. Embrace who you are. You’re freaking awesome.

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