The Honest Truth About Finding Your Forever Person Too Early

Finding your forever person is hard enough, but finding them five or ten years too early is heartbreaking to say the least.

Finding your forever person is like finding your soulmate. Seemingly impossible, but when you find it, you grab onto it with all the strength that you have. And when you find that kind of love, you never ever want to let go of it. But sometimes, it’s just the wrong timing. And sometimes, that bond breaks and bends and there is nothing you can do about it. It just happens.

When you find your forever person too early, the thoughts of ‘forever’ and ‘ever after’ can go out the window. So often, we find our fairytale when we aren’t even grown yet. We find our happily ever after in high school or college, and we watch that slowly fade into black as time moves on. We find our ‘person’ at an age where we don’t even know who we are yet.

And how can we grow old with someone when we are barely old enough to know ourselves?

I found him when I was 17. He was ‘it’. The ‘one’. The boy of my dreams, the man of my destiny. But at 17, I didn’t know who I wanted to be. He didn’t know who he wanted to be. I didn’t know what I wanted to do in life, and neither did he. We were just two people, floating through life aimlessly, not knowing what the future had in store.

Three years passed, and I still thought he was the one. No one could have told me otherwise. No one could have convinced me that I was too young, or too naive for it to last. I it was going to last. I knew it in every cell in my soul and every bone in my body. It was a fact written on myexistence.

But at 21, when our college careers were taking flight and when plane rides and time change took it’s toll, we were through. It happened so slowly, that neither of us knew it was coming.

And all of a sudden, just in a matter of minutes, my forever was gone. My one and only, lost. My sanctuary and home for the last 3 years was now – empty.

I had my big love too early. It happened too quickly and ended too slowly. We were moving in fast motion right up until the end. My world went from a vivid redto grey and black clouds that blurred my vision.

When you find your forever person too early, there will be a permanent crack on your heart. When you find your forever person too early, a part of you will break and you will never get that piece back. When you find your forever person too early, it will take years for your heart to come back toits former self.

When you find your forever person too early, you will never be the same.

It’s a bittersweet symphony. Finding great love. Falling in love. Giving your heart to someone. Seeing a future with them, and having kids to call your own. You see a picture of how your life could be. And you see it with them.

But when it ends too soon, it’s hard to get back up again. It’s hard to pick up all of your shattered pieces that have been planted on the ground beneath you. When it ends too soon, it’s hard to get back to the person who you used to be, without them.

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1 .” This isn’t an excuse at all, but we were in a long distance relationship. I was genuinely lonely one night and drink a bit more than I usually did.I woke up in some random girl’s bed the next morning .” Rick, 25

2 .” We hadn’t had sexuality for at the least six months .” Nate, 23

3 .” I was falling out of love with my girlfriend and I knew we weren’t going to last very long. I know it was a dick move but, I thought, why not just take the lead in the breakup .” Paul, 29

4 .” It didn’t mean anything. I know everyone says that, but this random girl at the bar started eyeing me up and down. I bought her a drink. And she me. I had never felt so special in my whole life .” Tim, 21

5 .” I was successful. I had a big ego. I could get any girl I wanted. My girlfriend and I were in deep water after a fight and I went out that night with my buds who kind of egged me on to kiss one of the exotic dancers. Well, one thing lead to another andhonestly? I don’t regret it .” Lucas, 33

6 .” This girl and I had been talking for a while. I told her all about how my girlfriend was super controlling. She told me about her abusive relationship. I felt so connected to her that I didn’t even think about the cheating factor. We are blithely married now. I don’t regret it because then we would never be together right now .” Sam, 35

7 .” I had always wanted to have a really hot affair. When I satisfied her, my world changed. She lighted me up in a manner that is my wife had never done. Do I partly regret it? Yes. Would I do it again? Yes .” Cody, 27

8 .” It was just one kiss. She kissed me and I got caught up in the moment. But, it didn’t mean anything. It genuinely didn’t.” Brent, 24

9 .” It had absolutely nothing to do with my significant other. She was wonderful and our sexuality life was great. It had everything to do with me. I was selfish. It helped my ego. That’s why I did it. And I will regret it everyday for the rest ofmy life .” Chris, 31

10 .” Honestly? I don’t know. I guess I had low ego esteem. I wanted to feel needed. I wanted to feel sexy. But, damn. I messed up a wonderful and beautiful relationship. And I hate myself for that .” Nick, 22

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