Trust In The Timing Of Your Life

Life is chaotic sometimes. Just as you think everything is going swimmingly, something happens that sends you out of whack. It stimulates you a little bit adrift and this unsettling feeling is hard to shake. Whether its losing your job, your SO, or even if your favorite coffee shop closes down( yes, this would suck for me ), its important to take a step back, exhale and surrender.

I always get into a funk when my life goes off balance. Sometimes I feel like Ive taken one step forwards and two steps back. Thats when I stop and realise,

It’s okay.

Its okay to feel behind, its okay not to be okay, but at the same hour its important to pick yourself up. I give myself 10 emotional minutes in a day if I need it, then I get up and remind myself that I am a gangster( with a matcha latte and a yoga mat ).

Accept.

We want to control everything around us, the situations and the person or persons, but youve got to remember that you cant control every aspect of your life. Dont waste your energy into things you cant control. Instead, utilize that energy to get yourself closer to those goals and being the best version of yourself.

Trust.

Trust in life and trust in yourself. Trust that where you are at in your life at the moment is the right thing and the thing this is necessary most. Dont compare your life to others, everyone is on an individual journey and is on a completely different route and scrolling through your feed upon social media isnt going to stimulate you feel better if you think everyone is ahead of you. Life isnt a race so slow down.

Learn.

Learn from the struggles, falls, heartache, heartbreak, loss, and endings. Because when something ends, a new thing begins. Learn from the people who have come into your life and left, learn from the people who are still here, learn from your experiences good and bad, and most of all learn from yourself.

Celebrate.

We all have objectives that we one day trying to achieve, but in the meantime celebrate your small wins and keep yourself motivated. Focusing on only the big goal can be daunting at times when you think youre not getting closer to it, so look at each step as a tick in the box, getting you that much closer to your goals and go and have that glass of wine and celebrate( any excuse for a tipple ).

Be grateful.

Be grateful for everything in your life. Acknowledge the good no matter how small. You woke up this morning and have another chance at life, you have great friends and family, you have a roof over your head whatever it is, be grateful.

Remember, life is amazing, then awful. And then its amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the nasty, and relax and exhale during the course of its ordinary. Thats just living, heart-breaking, soul-healing, astounding, nasty, ordinary life and its breathtakingly beautiful.

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17 Ways Lazy Girls Fake Having Their Shit Together

I’m one of those lazy girls that constantly floats between wearing glasses and sweatpants, to the whole nine yards with murderer heels and a little black dress. But, the majority of cases( all the time ), I’d rather not really try.I have come to find that , none of us really have to try so hard to seem like weknow what we’re doing. It’s easier than it seems.

1 . Throw your hair up in a messy bun . No matter your hair texture, or how badly the ends of your strands seem, you can always set it up and spray with a bit of hairspray to make sure it lasts all day.

2 . Sunglasses . They hide tired eyes, puffy eyes, hangovers, and blemishes. They are truly the best accessory. You don’t even require make-up.

3 . Starbucks . I don’t care if you despise it, but carrying around a Starbucks cupin your hand induces you lookSOdarn fancy.

4 . Wine . Display wine bottles all over your place. Collect the corks to display on your coffee table. Basically, wine will always be the answer. No matter what.

5 . LaCroix Water . I likely will never be able to pronounce it, but when you pull one out of your purse, you will look fancy as f* ck.

6 . Throw on a dress . Candidly, why even bother putting on pants anymore?

7 . Always order the biggest plate of pasta you can . Literally, everyone else with their pathetic salads are going to stare at you with jealousy. #winning. #alwayssayyestopasta.

8 . Save old selfies . Whenever “youre feeling” on’ fleek ‘, take a scene. On the days when you are lying in bed with nothing to do, post one of those old but HOT pictures of yourself. Likes guaranteed.

9 . Google pictures of the gym . Then, post some believable ones on your snapchat. Keep’ murdering’ in bed.

10 . If you must go out, don’t forgotten your’ medicine ‘. Now, when you want to leave early to a collect, depict your friends your’ antibiotics’ that the doctor prescribed for you. You are free to goes, and in the clear.

11 . Fairy lightings . So, you don’t feel like vacuuming or cleaning your apartment up at all? Not a problem. Buy some cute suns, hang them up, and your friends won’t even notice the disaster that is right in from of them.

12 . Adult coloring books . Some may say you’re lazy for not going out on a Friday night, Isay you are relaxing your intellect with some good old fashioned fun( and alcohol ).

13 . Build up your bed . No matter how messy and disgusting your bedroom is, attaining up your bed will always make you look like you are on top of things.

14 . Always have gum on hand . Sometimes, you forget to brush your teeth while you were in a rush to get work. What does the job? Gum. Sometimes, you have a really bad hangover and brushing your teeth isn’t cutting it. What does the job? Gum.

15 . Dry shampoo . We all don’t have time to wash our hair every single day. Meet dry shampoo: your new best friend. It get rid of excess oil and constructs it look like you actually tried( for once ).

16 . Fake plants . I don’t know what it is about plants, but they are really hard to take care of( or it’s just me ). Solution? Fake flowers, fake hydrangeas, and fakesucculents will construct you seem like the queen of having your shit together.

17 . When all else fails, stop devoting a crap . Pay no intellect to the persons who to continue efforts to put you down. Espouse your laziness. Embrace who you are. You’re freaking awesome.

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Sometimes The People We Fall Hardest For Are The People Who Let Us Down The Hardest

As much as it hurts, and how much it kills you, sometimes the people we love we most, are the ones that aren’t good for us. No matter how much you care for them, and how much you want to keep them in your life, sometimes the people you love most are the ones who will hurt you the most.

It’s hard for us to picture the person we love most in this world every trying to hurt us, but the harder we love, the bigger the possibility of them hurting us gets. It’s hard for us to imagine them saying goodbye, or them leaving without another word. It’s hard to picture the moment when they will find someone better, someone prettier, someone more likable.

“It won’t happen to us”, we say. “Our relationship is different than all the others”, we try to convince ourselves. “He wouldn’t do that to me”, we whisperto ourselves in the darkness.

But sometimes, no matter how big the love is, and how confident the bond is between you two, they will end up hurting you. No matter what you do.

We can’t escape it. We can’t foresee it. We can’t ever predict it. Sometimes, it just happens. Without a warning. And without a chance of explanation. They call you on the phone telling you it’s over. They pack up their bags and leave overnight. They write a note on your bedside table saying sorry. They tell you they want to see other place. They tell you they have changed their minds.

And it’s not anyone’s fault. It’s not your fault for loving so hard. It’s not their fault for having a change of heart. It’s not your fault for entering into the relationship. It’s not their fault for finding someone else who they get along better with.

It’s just life. It’s how things happen. And sometimes, the worst things happens. The boy you thought was your forever is gone. The boy you loved the most, wrecked you. And they didn’t even give you a chance to show them all you had to offer them.

They never ever gave you a chance.

So, what do you say to them? What do you do? You tell those people who left you, that it’s their loss. That you feel sorry for them for never giving you the benefit of the doubt. That they just lost the best thing they could’ve had.

And then tell them thank you.

Because now, you finally realize that they weren’t the best person for you.

The best person for you wouldn’t ever leave. The best person for you wouldn’t ever dare to sneak out without another word. The best person for you would never utter the words, “goodbye”. The best person for you would be right there next to you, sleeping soundly, dreaming of you. The best person for you would stay. They will always stay.

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The Truth About Why I Haven’t Determined For A’ Real’ Job Yet

I roll out of bed ataround 4:30 am even after a 1:00 am clock out at work a short 3.5 hours prior. My phone lies on my nightstand lighted up with Nordstrom Rackemails, Tinder messages, and an option to hit Sleep.

Next step is usually a trip-up to the bathroom to rinse the make up residue from my eyes I failed to getoff properly the night before. I head to the kitchen next, snap the lid on the Keurig for coffee and crack two eggs for my omelette.

My green Herschel backpack is stuffed to the top with food, clothes, and other random items Ill need for the next several hours .

I pull my plaid pajama shorts off and change into a pair of multi-color gym shorts and a Lululemon tank. The walking to the gym is a short 8 minutes where I begin my first chore of the day.

My status at 9am is as follows 😛 TAGEND Job# 1 Check . Workout Check . Dark circles beneath my eyes: Check. Check. Check .

After a rain, I hop onto the metro to Court House station in Arlington, VA where my freelance marketing gig is. Outside the office is a giant mural, overloaded with every color in the spectrum. Step into the office and youll find boxes, several desks, and a keg of Yuengling light.

Hunter *, what are Saturdays for? THE BOYS! He replies.

this is how my Tuesdays usually go.

My work uniform changes from gym clothes, to jeans paired with a cute shirt and then a transitionto a tight black tank usually wornwith dark-wash shorts and Converse-like nonslip shoes. A Flying Dog bottle opener usually hangs out of my back pocket as I head to my third job of the day.

Work views are brew taps and a dusty Absolut Oak bottle that is never utilized. Networking is chatting up bar guests with the occasional resume/ business card exchange .# Goals areum, I dont really know.

A 23 year old single bartender living in the nations capital: a demographic I presently fall into which I have come to find out is few and far between. Im not are participating in grad school, I didnt move here to be with a significant other, I dont have a defined career path. My day-to-day activities dont involve long commutes on the Metro, responding to emails in record-setting hours, or lunch breaks with co-workers at thefood truck outside of the office

My schedule is long and not the most glorious, but I dont allow myself to complain. Ok, perhaps the ocassionalIm tired AF stop talking to me, remark, but its a life I opted for myself.

I recently was offered a full hour 9-5 gig. Benefits, an entry level salary, a smart option. One that would have certainly removed me from the uncommon demographic I have stumbled upon. One that would turn my 16 hour days into 9, one that would give my loved ones a peace of mind that Im more financially and mentally stable.

I wanted to respond to the email with eagerness, but as my fingers began to type the response, I hit backspace.

Thank you so much for this opportunity. I would love to acc-

Delete.

I politely declined the offer.

Im trying really hard not to sound like the cliche millennial with a~ go with the flow~ position about my professional life because the truth is, I am very much looking forward to the day that I can afford to take weekends off. I cant wait to tell my mommy that I landed a job and be genuinely aroused about it. I cant wait to look back and say to myself 😛 TAGEND

But, I want to be excited about it. Maybe the next job I land wont be exactly what I want to do with the rest of my life, but why should I have to settle for something so farfetched from where I want to be to feel like I belong?

Its hard for some people to understand a lot of the choices I construct, and its even tougher to explain them. But, Ive found that its best not explain them at all.

Just because I dont know exactly where this path will take me, at least I know its going to take me somewhere.

People call me crazy for running 3 jobs. To be honest, I could probably get by with only bartending full period if I wanted to. However, Id rather be living a life that encompasses all of my interestswhile getting paid for it. And if that entails running my ass of day in and day out, thats ok.

The stereotypical DC question to ask. Sometimes people are just genuinely interested, but other days its to compare themselves.Its a question I get all of the time, usuallyas Im pouring a beer for them as they are in the midst of complaining about how miserable their task is. Its often an assumption that bartending is just for extra cash, and for a lot of people it is. But for me, its not. At least for now.

I dont go into detail about my long days, because I know they dont genuinely want to hear it. I used to feel like I had to explain myself and my situation often replying with 😛 TAGEND

Well Im just trying to figure out what I want to do so I run a few chores find what will fit best for me.

Who wants to get up at 4:30 am and finish the working day at 1am? Society would classify us as: crazy, unhappy, and overworked.

Crazy? Perhaps. Overworked? At hours, yeah. Unhappy? Who says?

It would be taboo for me to say, This life I have chosen for myself induces me genuinely happy. Even if its the truth.

I moved to a new cityto for one reason: to create a new life. One that may be messy, exhausting, and challenging at times, but I find happinessin the fact that I construct it on my own.I may have to excavation beneath the several thousand dollars of rent pays, Uber charges, and shitty boys to find it, but its still there.

I shouldnt have to explain why this life makes me happy, and neither should you.

Be good people and make healthy options. Know your worth, but know youll forgotten your worth at times too, and thats OK. Learn from it. Mothers, peers, and privileged strangers will tell you a steady careeris the key to happiness, which is fine, but dont let them define your the expected accomplishments and contentment if youre not in the same state of mind. Take each opportunity presented to you and run with it. Whether that opportunity involves asking customers how theyd like their burger cooked or traveling the world with Nat Geo( someday ), it doesnt matter. Every task, every shitty guy, every individual experience attains you more than who you were yesterday. And thats awesome.

My Tuesdays may be different from your Tuesdays, but its merely a Tuesday. And I like Tuesdays. I hope you do too .

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How To Know When It Is Finally Time To Let Run

Its 1:40 am and youre trying to wipe tears of your face from reading old text messages from when you first gather. You peek to see if hes online because you want to send that long message you saved in your drafts to let him know you miss him. Your heart is aching from flashing memories of all the favorite dates you had. This is it. This is when reality makes you the most. Youre in denial but you know you have to swallow the truth anyway .

This is when you need to stop.

Get up. Stroll to the bathroom and dunk your face into water. At this moment, you only cleaned not only the regrets from your eyes but the heartache you felt after months of being mistreated. Where did he run? Where was he when you went to bed screaming from a broken heart ? Realization flows into your body like a streaming river of sadnes. All those nights of you feeling like a ticking bomb waiting to explosion because you overthink on the what ifs and whys. You are done picking up pieces of your heart that he shattered every single day you make a mistake.

Its time to set yourself free. Its time to let go.

You knew he was not worth it. You knew you were unhappy for the longest day you could recollect. You stayed and held on because you thought that he would change. He promised you eternally. But eternally is now a remote memory. You cant “re fucking lying to” yourself anymore and no level of persuading is enough for you to go back to the style you were when you were in love . Place your hand over your heart and know that you cant do this anymore. This is too much. Pain has caused you to be somebody you’re not. Lies transgressed your trust and constructed you think everybody is the same. He brought the bad out of you like a dark angel came to see you a long-kept closet. This isnt you. This isnt him. And this is definitely not us.

If merely he could understand how you felt.

How you felt when you found out about his lies. How you felt when he left you hanging in between explains. How you felt when he “ve told you” that youre not been enough for him. You know you didnt deserve that but you believed you do because you love him to believe his terms over your own. When do you know when its time to let go?

You could only hold on to something painful for so long till you lose strength and heroism to let go. Why hold on to something that hurts you. Relationships are not supposed to be toxic. People say get rid of toxic because its bad for you.

Its time to realize that the toxic is a person . It needs to go. It needs to leave your system before it corrodes you and leave more damage than you could regain back. It will hurt. If it didnt then it wasnt real. Its never easy to let go of the person you love but it’s more impossible to stay.

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Choose Someone Who Loves You Without Anxiety

We all understandably get scared of rejection, of showdown and of getting hurt. So, sometimes, when we take our old bruised and beaten down hearts and give them to someone else, we get frightened. We get anxious. We get the urge to sprint the other direction .

But you shouldn’t choose the one who wants to run. You shouldn’t choose the one who sprints away from you. Never, ever opt the one who hesitates.

And never, ever choose the one who seems the other route when you pour your heart out to them.

Choose someone who gazes right at your flaws and doesn’t cringe. Choose someone who finds the worst parts of you and doesn’t cover his eyes. Choose someone who witnesses you spew venom, and doesn’t conceal in anxiety . Choose someone who will say ” I love you” confidently and easily. With no tremble in their voice. And no shakiness on their lips. Choose the person that listens to you when you’re hurting, and will hold you through it instead of scoffing at you. Choose members of the public who looks up at you instead of appearing down. Choose members of the public who lets you glisten on your own, and lets you walk at your own pace .

You deserve someone who won’t run at the first sign of trouble.

You deserve someone who won’t leave when you need them the most. True love isn’t supposed to fled the scene of such crimes. True love stays, through thick and through thin. True love is stronger than the urge to say goodbye. True love should never apologize for its strength. And it should never apologize for glistening so brightly .

The right person for you should love without a whisper of hesitation.

They will love you fiercely, without any doubt that you are the best person that they have ever met. They will kiss you aloud, and shower you with their confidence in you. They will hug you proudly, the kind of hug that doesn’t have a question mark in it . They will hold you, embracing you in their safety net. They won’t let any fire violate their grip on you.

Choose someone who loves you without dread. Who screams instead of whispers. Who leaps instead of strolls. And who runs towards you, instead of away from you.

Choose someone who always has a hand out for you to grab onto. Choose someone who never looks at you with a frown, but looks at you with a glimmer in their eyes. Choose the one who says” I love you” in everything that they do. Choose the one who loves you with every atom in their body and who will say ” I love you” only by a touch. Choose someone who loves you and doesn’t ever leave .

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Here’s Why You’re Permitted To Get Lost( And Why It’s Actually Good For You)

You’re allowed to get lost. I promise .

We are told to follow maps, to look at our compasses, and to always look ahead. We are constantly told to double checkdirections and to keep walking in a straight line.

But, what if we are tired of the straight lines?

What if we are tired of mapping out our entire lives, piece by piece, and corner by corner? What if we want to stop appearing down at our feet, being petrified of falling? What if we don’t want to follow the rules anymore?

So why don’t we do it? Why don’t we get lost for the first time in our lives? Let’s put down our maps and our lists and our tools. Let’s put down our scheme B’s and our five year objectives. And let’s lose ourselves in what freedom ultimately feels like .

Let’s travel down grime roads that lead to meadows and fences that open our eyes to new opportunities. Let’s travel down alley routes and gale roads that lead us to new coffeehouse, new people and to new destinations.

Let’s travel down the unexpected pathways.

Let’s ditch our the notions of what we should be doing, and simply do what we want to do for once. Let’s move to a new city. Let’s move to a new country. Let’s make an entirely new career for ourselves. Let’s get rid of negative people in our lives. Let’s finally tell that one person who got away, that westill love them. Let’s rid ourselvesof our dreads and our anxieties .

It’s time to do what we have always wanted to do. It’s time to do what frightens us and what sets us out of our comfort zones. It’s time to truly find our destiny, whether it’s on a grime road, or on the seaside shore. We’ve got to find where we belong whether it’s in a city full of skyscrapers, or a country side that lets us roam free.

It’s ok to get lost. It’s to get lost.

Because, when we get lost we truly find ourselves. When we get lost we truly figure out how we fit into this big world. Getting lost isn’t the end at all. No, get lost is just the beginning.

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This Is The Kind Of Love You Are Worth

It’s easy to put yourself down and to run away from a potential love because you’re so scared of screwing it up. It’s easy to run. But you’re worth more than the type of love that leaves. You are worth more than the kind of love that fades. You are worth more than the type of love that hides . The truth is, the various kinds of love that you are worth is something that probably hasn’t come yet. Because if it happened to you, then you wouldn’t have had to say goodbye to it. Because the kind of love you are worth is never going to utter the words “goodbye” . This is the kind of love you are worth: It’s the kind that doesn’t shy away from your illumination. It’s the kind that latches onto your rays, letting them shine even brighter. The various kinds of love you are worth is the kind that says hello to you with vivid colourings, and one that hollers” I love you” for the world to hear .

The kind of love that you are worth is the kind that never stifles your smile.

It is the kind that find the whole galaxy by just looking into your eyes. The kind that find the future only by seeing your smile. And the kind that never, ever, looks away from your steady gaze .

It’s the type of love that never hesitates , no matter how adamantthe climate men are aboutthe category five hurricane.

Even if the foundation of the house shakes with the wind and thunder, this love won’t lose power when the energy goes out.

It will build sparks just by seeing you. This love will stimulate power just from being in the presence of you.

The kind of love that you are worth is the kind that is tender with every touch it gives you. It will stroke you, like you are the canvas, and they willpaintyou in their favorite watercolors. Bringing out your strengths in red, and bringing out your laugh in blue .

This type of love is powerful. And no matter how far you run, it will follow you home.

You ensure, the type of love you are worth is the kind that doesn’t give up. It is the kind of an elephant, the kind that never forgets. The kind that they are able paint you even if they are unable to speak.

You deserve the type of love that won’t run from you. And the kind of love that you are worth, won’t. It won’t disappear. It won’t fade like a twenty year old tattoo. It will grow more vivid and bright with each day that passes. It is a loud, obnoxious, and fierce force-out that will protect you amongst the chaos. Amongst the sadness. Amongst the anxiety . The kind of love you are worth won’t ever turn away. It will hold your hand through the summer despise sweaty and slick palms. It will kiss your nose despite the frost bitten temperatures of wintertime. And it will fall for you everyday, like the foliages in autumn. It will never stop falling. It will always be calling your name .

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